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writes:I cheated on my girlfriend 6 months ago and we have been dating for 7 months now, i felt so horrible and i told her what i did.. i didnt tell her everything i did though with the girl so i started feeling guilty again then told her the rest i did with that girl a few days later. She didnt break up with me but was so upset. i am now feeling guilty about everything i have done in my life and feel the need to tell her everything because the guilt is killing me.. i cant take it anymore.. what should i do?
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reader, Laura17  +, writes (22 May 2012):
I am currently in this exact situation. I've told him yet havent told him everything. I guess it's a case of 'what he/she doesnt know wont hurt'. I know it's hard living with the guilt but you should put it behind you. No one is perfect, but that's not to say that what you've done is right. You should get counciling for dealing with the guilt or read articles on how to deal with guilt. It helps, trust me!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 If you've already told her all of the cheating, you are just going to pain her to tell her the dirty details. If she is able to accept you, you must now accept yourself. you may be able to get by by just following her cues, treating her EXTRAwell, earn back her trust, learn from your mistake, and never do this again.If you truly aren't able to live with the guilt you'll have to break up and process your guilt solo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): i am sorry . the damage is done..and this will never work out from either sides. she'll never be able to get over it.the hurt will always be there for her and the guilt for you.it is best that you both part..sometimes love is not enough..you have learn't a valuable lesson for your future.she may forgive you now ..because you guys are still in the "honeymoon phase " of your relationship.but later on ,it will not work out. this is gonna haunt her a lot more and leave no space for any love ...in a few months or more.
i pity her love for you.she must have truly loved you and have a very soft heart..to forgive you like that! and continue the relationship .But if you want to rid her of pain and want her to be happy in future,then leave her for good.if not today then at least someday let her be happy with someone who has a clean chit in the relationship. right?for once be unselfish and end it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Well you said you cheated at the start of the relationship and you came clean about that right? Okay so it took you six months but you done the right thing in the end. Off course she is going to be upset with you, but am sure she respects your honesty as well.
Now you say you feel guilty about other things you have done in your life? Do these things effect your girlfriend in anyway? Because if they don't then you do not need to share anything with her that you don't have to. Everyone makes mistakes in the past but we learn from them mistakes and we move on.
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