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I can't stop thinking about my cousin. How can I take things to the next level?

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Question - (9 November 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 27 November 2012)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im 24 and my cousin is 37, i cant stop thinking about her. i sent her a dirty text meassage and i said i made a mistake. but she said at first she thought i was drunk lol but then i was sure you sent it to me by mistake. is she interested in me? how can i take this to the next level? how do i flirt with her with texting?. please everyone this is not a joke

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012):

its been almost more than 6 months when me my cusin started going out. he is 8 years older than me and am in my mid twenties. its been awkward at first but not any more. i used to have fantasies about him and when he came forward and told me his feelings, i didnt think twice. we love each other so much and we have great time together. but offcourse we know about the issues with kids so we know we are not going to have them. its so special. but the thing is we didnt tell to our famillies.

so in your case if the attraction is mutual, thats great but if not thats going to be awkward and remember in west we live where family relationships are considered as"sin". you have to handle this case carefully and wisely. Good Luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012):

Out of all the women in the world you want to date your cousin!!!!! I wouldn't do it if I were you because when she say.... ARE YOU NUTS?.....then how would you feel having to face her after the fact? I'm sure she will tell a family members then the whole family will know about it. If you mess around with her and she gets pregnant the baby will suffer with defects so put your thinking cap on.

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A female reader, moon river  United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2012):

moon river  agony auntmaybe its just really obvious to her that you like her. i would suggest thinking about how your family will feel about this?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012):

I don't know if you're American but I presume you live in American now. You don't date your family member and you certainly don't do it with a dirty text message. You have to come much better than that for a 37 year old woman.

There are plenty of women who would love to date you that are outside your family. I would suggest don't go for your cousin, its a big world out there and step outside your family circle.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (9 November 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYou write: " how can i take this to the next level?"

You can't.... at least, not by yourself. IF you've "put your oar in the water"..... but weren't able to advance the canoe.... then it's time to go to the beach and reconsider wha'ssup......

P.S. I overlooked that this woman is your cousin because, frankly, it makes no difference!!!

Good luck.....

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (9 November 2012):

chigirl agony auntShe's not interested in you by the sounds of it. Sorry. If you want to pursue her then you got to do it like you'd pursue any other girl, expect show caution. Many women have restrictions about dating a family member, although this depends entirely on your culture and relationship.

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