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anonymous
writes:I've been the other woman for a year and I now finally ready to leave but I can't seem to get that last bit of strength to send that break up text.Our affair is purely sexual and I want more. I don't find a relationship that is based on sex satisfying and fulfilling.I was naive and fell for the seperated and in process of leaving line now I'm sucked into it.I went in with the expectation that this will be temporary and he would be free and be all mine.. but a year later he still lives with his wife and won t see me outside his work hours. As a result , I ve been stood up because something had come up at the last minute and he couldn t come meet it anymore.I just can't put myself through that anymore and it's hard on my couscous knowing he is still with is kids motherI think about sending that text but then i tell myself I just want to see him one more time before ending it.In other words ,I keep putting it off .At the same time I'm miserable in this affair but afaid to leave.What made you finally snap out of it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2018): It is amazing how many married men emotionally destroy their wives by having sex with other women, and yet never pay the price for their cheating ways. This guy is just going to find someone else to escape with. And so the cycle continues. Does anyone ever think about telling the wife what kind of a man she's married to? Likely, she will forever be in the dark. :((
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (16 August 2018):
 You’ve done the right thing. If you haven’t already, block and delete his number, block him on social media and remove any notes or photos of/from him.Begin a new hobby and remember to allow yourself to be sad, but also remind yourself that he was a horrible cheater and his wife didn’t deserve you helping him cheat. Be proud enough of ending it that you don’t cave and go back to him. You know a married man can never be yours. Even if he’d left her, you’d never be able to trust him because you know he’s happy to cheat.You’ve done the best thing and his wife will hopefully find out who her husband is so she can leave him and find someone who is faithful to her, just like you will do. Try to stay single for 6 months or so, just to refresh yourself.God luck :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2018):
 You did do the right thing and time will heal! I hope you have learnt now never to enter in to an affair with a married man, as more times than average it is the other woman that gets hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE
So I finally mustered up courage to end it. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders but I feel sad at the same time.I know I did the right thing...time heals
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (15 August 2018):
“Don’t contact me any more”. Then block him and cut all contact. Do it immediately, then you can’t take it back. Don’t make it long, don’t explain anything don’t go into any feelings, just send a text saying you don’t want to talk any more. Get a friend to sit with you while you do it, if you need to
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