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writes:well i dunno where to start... im feeling very low, my self esteem is below zero, its been a rough year, my boss was sacked for bullying me,i ended a wrong (outside marriage relationship to save my marriage) and the other guy has done nothing but take every chance to put me down, insult me, cheapen me to people i know, since i ended it, he emailed telling me im nothing but a slapper and so long as i wear lots of make up, someone will like me... ive been on and off anti depressants and in and out of councilling this year over abuse as a child... and oh yeah he knew about that 2). I have no confidence at all!Anyway and in general this year has been long and hard. The job i did where my boss was fired for bullying me - it was high pressure sales and in the end i couldnt handle it. I've developed a drink problem and i dont know how to stop it.... it just stops me from thinking too much about how pathetic i am and how much everyone always must have hated me.... even as a child, to be treated that way i must have made people hate me.... im tired of everything.... i have a new job now but feel this last year is weighing so heavy on me I can't push the reset button. Why are people so cruel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe boss that was sacked for bullying wasnt the person i was involved with,, sorry if i confused the issue and thankyou for your support... people think im confident and cant understand when i say im not,,, confidence dont come from people thinkin u look good.... it comes from you feeling good..and i dont anymore.... its frustrating...my hubbie says how can u not be confident when we go out i hate it, guys break there neck to look at you, he just dont get it,,, thats nothing, friends i have left say.. come on... look at you. how can you not be confident... i feel no1 understands me anymore
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (25 November 2009):
People are cruel to anyone who hasn't got confidence because they're an easy target to hurt. From what you've suffered, you've become an easy target for people who can use you. That's what you need to address. It willrt hurt you, I'm sure But you now need to focus entirely on yourself. Your old boss is no longer part of your life, and he's only saying the things he is because he knows they're getting to you. Focus on yourself. Keep going to the counselling, pour your heart out as much as you need to and maybe start a new hobby or something that challeges you in a nicer way. It will take time to get over, but if you focus on yourself now, rather than look for other people, you'll start to feel better. And please get help for the drinking too. Coming here was a good start. :) All the best.
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reader, shortone1  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 im sorry about what had happened to you in the past its hard to go through something like that. all i can offer are words that i hope will help. You can be as tall as you want to be, you have the power to bring your self down or up. if you dont' already i recommend reading the bible and going to church and following god and praying that is your decision. i found that it helps alot to be postive even in bad situations or where your feeling so low youd rather die or just kill your self.. i have felt that way before but i always know something good will come my way and i feel this way about you. i know if you keep your head up everything will be alright and nothing can stop you, like i said you have the power and as long as you believe in GOD when you least expect it something great will happen. just ignore what people say that are mean words, but always kill them with kindness and i don't have the experience of using alcohol because i don't drink, but maybe it would help if you think of all the money you could be saving if you didn't drink and it sounded like alcohol is a get-a-way for you, so maybe try something that also makes you happy like going shopping, spending time with people who are positive and happy and love you for you, like going to a church has lots of people who are very upright and im sure it would be a great place to meet people who can understand you more and be supportive also. please keep me informed, i will always be here for you even tho' you don't know me and i don't know you. i hope i helped and can help some more. anytime.
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