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*hesmylife517
writes:Me an my bf been having alot of problems. Im super jealous but i have reasons to be. He has been caught talkin an texting other woman in the past but i never saw anything crazy. About two weeks ago i saw a number with no name in a text an asked him an he got all mad an said he didnt know who it was. I called the number an found out its a woman he had a sexual history with in the past. I heard the voicemail greeting an realized who it was. He denied it. So just yesterday i saw the number again but he deletes all his calls an txt so i didnt see anything that was written. He said she was asking about a job in a restaurant because he knows the owner. I dont believe him at all.. We live together an dont have anywhere else to go.. Im so upset wit him an dont know what to do. I love him so much an dont know what to do. I dont wana be with him because im tired of his shit. But i dont wana be without him.. I need advice please. Thanx
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reader, Shesmylife517 +, writes (15 May 2011):
Shesmylife517 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx guys :) an as the title not my doing lol i said i dont wana be with him but dont wana be witout him u know they change it :) yes sometime i do come out angry because i cant control it sometimes.. He is a good guy and i have never caught him saying anytin bad.. Im goin to try a lil longer if he doesnt change his ways im out.. There is a guy that will only want me that is so true.. Sometimes u dont know what you have til u lose it..
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina +, writes (14 May 2011):
 Yes you can live without him. You will find a better man that will want only you and will not desire talking to any other woman. In fact, he will forget every woman he had except you. That's way true love works and that's what you deserve. If you want to find this then you need to leave him. On the other hand, maybe leaving him will cause him to change his ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2011): Hi!Yeah Id say he had broken trust here, especially if its someone who he previously had relations with. That only makes you wonder whats going on and as a result it creates uneasiness. I find this guy quite immature because of his defensiveness about the text. If you brought up angrily however I could see how he could be defensive as that to me is a natural reaction when an accustation is made. If thats the case, from this point on, try to talk to the guy calmly and ask him what is he wants out of a relationship or even non-relationship. You deserve honesty and if he is wanting to mess around, that would be sad in my opinion and youd need to break things off with the guy. Dont ever be dependent on men and feel like youll always be alone and lonely and all that. That is unhealthy because it can develop a pattern for some ppl when they search out mates. Hence maybe part of the reason why some women only love a$$holes and not some idiot virgin like myself who decided to hold out til age 25. Evaluate this situation and move on. He def may not be worth your emotion or time.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 May 2011):
 He has been caught in the past and he has been caught in the present. I am inclined to think he'll give you many other chances to catch him in the future ( unless he becomes much better at covering his tracks ).
I am afraid that if you are tired now... in future he'll make you exhausted.
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