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I can't help but think that he's not in it for the long run.

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Question - (31 January 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 February 2011)
A female South Africa age 30-35, *upid's follower writes:

hi,

I met someone, things started off shaky just cause when things get serious i start pushing people away just to see if they'l stick around and he didn't he just became distant. I felt bad because for a while he was doing and saying all the right things, so i met up with him and explained to him that i had issues with trust and that i really did like him.

Long story short, we're still together but I can't help but think that he's not in it for the long run. In the past i ignored these feelings and got hurt and i just don't want to get hurt again. I learned that he had been with this particular girl before who was the love of his life but had left him when he had financial problems and that really hurt him, fine that i get, but why does he still have pictures of her and him from last year on facebook with comments like 'the woman in this here picture is the one i will marry one day there just no one else"? And why is it that everytime we get together we just have to have sex, its never us sitting and talking and if we do its nothing constructive? im falling for him though, the longer i stay the more it will hurt, not that leaving now wouldn't hurt but better now than later. should i stick around with this guys

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A female reader, Princess Aunty Mauritius +, writes (1 February 2011):

Why don't you talk to him about it? Well me too if i was in your place i would feel the same. Try talking to him in a friendly way not like one that make him feel pressurized.

Personally i think that you should leave him because it seems that he still have feelings for his ex and he does not care about you.

Love is not just about having sex. Its having someone for emotional support as well. There seem to be less closeness among you guys. And this occurred due to lack of communication as you told us. Maybe he just fantasized about you. I don't think thats love.

Yeah better you leave hm now rather than regret later

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