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writes:I posted a question before about my long distance relationship.I'm 16 and he's 20 and been together 4 months problem is i'm not allowed down till i'm older and he said he was fine with this but now he says it might split us apart which both of us dont want.He said he can't wait forever which i told him i know but i need a few more months and he said he'll wait but i'm still not to sure. I can't convince my mum to let me and now she saying she's going to tell him to back off. I dont know what to so cause i cant please both of them. I understand that its really hard for him to keep affording to come up and see me and i told him i'll wait but i dont know if he will and i wish i could do something but i cant and i'm beginning to believe my mum wants us to split. Any advice? I'm so confused and desperate.
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (6 December 2007):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thnx for the advice but we broke up anyway the distance was gettin to much and gettin us both down plus he couldnt wait till i was 18 to go down and it wasnt becuase of the sex cause we had already done it he jsut wanted me to go down cause he was findin it hard to keep comin up to see me all the time
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (3 December 2007):
 Without any intention of sounding biased, i think your mum is looking out for your best interests. 20 year old men are only interested in one thing, and you are 16. you need to experience the things this lad has without him. he says he won't wait, and you know that what he won't wait for is sex, because men can't. it's understandable and he has been honest but you need to realise that in time, you will see he is not meant to be with you, if he truely wanted to be with you for being you, he would wait a hundred years if it meant something.
your mum will always be there to help you when things go wrong, but she is just being a mum and seeing things from a different perspective without any clouded judgement, i'm sorry but i really think you should take her advice and just wait a bit before trying to have a grown up relationship.
take care.
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