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writes:I had a relationship a year ago that I'm still struggling to get over, even though I'm in a very happy relationship with someone else right now. My ex (S) played a huge part in my life since I was 15 until just a few months ago (I'm 17 now). I was diagnosed with depression in January and had councelling, and after that I started sorting my life out. S had been using me ever since we'd broken up in October, he knew I was still crazy about him so whenever he got lonely he'd give me a call and I'd come running, and then as soon as I showed interest in anyone else he'd feed then lies to try top make then lose interest in me. In April I had a huge argument with him and we haven't spoken since, although I see him all the time. Now we're both in very promising relationships so we're leaving eachother well alone, however I'm worried that if his relationship fails then he'll come running to me and I'm not 100% sure that I'll say no even though I love my current boyfriend to death and am incredibly happy with him.Is this just me still getting over S, or will this feeling be here forever? I love my current boyfriend to death and plan to spend the rest of my life with him, but every so often I find S creeps back into my head. What's going on?
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (24 September 2007):
 you need to understand that "s" doesn't love you because he minipulates and ruins yuor happiness for his own self gain.
i appreciate it's difficult to get over someone you have a emotional connection with, he was with you in a big way for almost 2 years, but then he got scared and you split up but he still used your vulnerablity to overcome his lonliness. he's not worth jeposdising your relationship for.
speak to your boyfriend and explain to him that this guy has ruined psat relationships for you even through no fault of your own and you fear he'll do the same with him. he'll trust you and respect you even more for telling him and he'll also be prepared if "s" does try anything.
seriously, concentrate on being with this new guy and stay happy!!
good luck
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Wow. I know exactly what you mean...because I cant stop thinking about my ex either, and we broke up a year ago. And last night, I had a dream we got married. Its terrible. Unfortunately, I dont have an answer for you, I just want you to know that you are most definately not alone in your feelings, and that there are others out there going through the same thing.
Best of luck...
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