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writes:Last year I was over across the earth to Hong Kong for my dad's business trip. I attended an international school for a year where I met this girl... lets name her X.Before I met X I never really fell in love with anyone, I've had various crushes and whatnot, but X, I can admit, was my first love, and I'm scared that she might be my only love. When I first met her, I sort of got this feeling that I couldn't live without her. But since I never really felt this kinda thing before,I didn't act quickly upon it, instead we became REALLY close friends, and I was stupid enough to believe that this really wasn't love (or that its not going to work out)and played around with other girls(non became a relationship). She always knew that I liked her, and I told her that I did at the end of the school year, right before I had to come back to Canada, and she had to go back to her country. We still communicate online and phonecalls and stuff, but when i ask her why she talks to me, she says cause we're "friends till death". I can't forget her, and I think about her everyday. Everytime I wish something, i wish that I'll marry her in the future...I tried going out with a girl here that I kinda liked, but I couldn't forget about X and I felt really bad for the new girl because I felt like I was cheating by not forgetting about X.I really want to forget about X and start new with a relationship, but I can't find any other girl that I 'love' as much as I love X... Is there any suggestions on what I should do?should I keep faithful to my non-existing relationship with X who I don't even know if she likes me or not, or should I forget about her. Is this a stupid teenager phase where it won't matter in the future? I HATE that we're half the earth apart, and we probably won't meet again until after university... (I'm currently 17).If i should forget her, any suggestions on how?
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reader, *brea//babbby.  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 You should just give her the link to this question and let her read what you wrote & what others wrote back. Maybe she can give you some of her own input. Good luck Y.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): The best way that you'll be able to forget her is to move on. Your life goes on, you should enjoy it. You're still so young. Going through a breakup is terrible! Do things you used to do when you weren't with her. Go out more often, meet new girls, talk to them :)
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Firstly.. your 17 sweetheart, there are going to be plenty more girls that come your way in the next 10 years. Believe Me! BUT why continue to make yourself miserable and in constant questioning about her? I say you tell 'X' how you honestly feel about her, it can only go two ways. She will either declare her love for you or say she doesn't feel the same way. I know it's going to be a kick in the face if she says the latter, But at least you'll know and be able to move on, whether it be with your current girl or another. But honestly, tell her how you feel, if you don't.. you'll always wonder 'What If?'
Good Luck Sweetie :)
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reader, gizzymylove +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Friends last longer than a boy friend girlfriend fling so your lucky and as for missing her thats ok you know what passion feels like and some people all over in there 50's don't know what that feels like so take a deep breath chill out and be young you only have one shot at youth so don't waste it by missing something enjoy all there is to enjoy and when you start thinking of people who think that you are so great then thats the time to think of her because im sure she is your biggest fan
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reader, johnnie +, writes (22 June 2010):
seems as though youve been touched deeply by X,and though theres alot of distance between you and her,the feelings,nor your HOPE has faded.
I believe theres a reason for everything in our lives here,and no such thing as coincedences...thats how GOD works...theres probably fears there that cloud your judgement too.cause you to rationalize decisions one way or the other opposite to what you later realize you should of chosen,hence "hinsight is 20/20".
Fear is a matter of losing something youve got or not getting something you want when your dealing with feelings.least for me it seems to be the rule.Have you truly let her know how you feel,honestly told her of the things you feel you should of,would of done.Gotton her point of views on how she feels about you first,the situation second,and what her hopes are????
Nothings impossiable with your situation,theres no reason not to keep your faith,and if you both have the same beliefs I think this is NOT a phase its whatever you CHOOSE for it to be,and with WORK it could develope into what your wishing for now.Dont waste your time with wishes though,work for your wishes,show her what you want.Doesnt matter how many miles are between you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): LOL.
aww thats so sweet;
but how do you no she doesnt like you?
you havent asked her; you havent opened up to her.
maybe if you do you'd know exactly what she feels and thinks and that will help you decide if you should move on or nott.
you should seriously try askinggg; as they say theres no harm in tryingg (=
LOL & yepp* that is truly love; but you shouldnt have messed around when you were with her. :/
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