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writes: I am in a relationship with a hot headed girl, where I feel like a prisoner, and i constantly taking verbil and some physical abuse off her. I have very little confidence and self asteam now but I am trying to get out but i just cant say the words.any suggestions to help me?
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reader, bailey626 +, writes (10 October 2006):
Hey.
I totally agree.. I was with my b/f for almost two years and suddnely he changed. Granted we had arguments and stuff, but suddenly he changed. I kept telling him if he wants out to just say so. He would just blame it on me stay in the relationship and act cold. We fought more and more each day. Mainly because I felt he changed and he just couldn't tell me to my face. In the end. We both suffered. Cause we continued to fight just because he didn't have the guts to tell me. Anyway, he finally did and I felt better. I Left. I'm sad that it's over, but I'm ok because NOW I KNOW that I'm not crazy!!! That he wanted out and that's why he was acting that way in turn making me act that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): this isnt the best way of doing it but its an old technique i used on a couple of gfs in the past. try and make her dump you!
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reader, ariel  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Do it in person.I know you are afraid that she might attack you,but you are bigger than that.Less is more,in other words keep to the point because what ever you say she is going to bellow.[you don't have to stand there and listen to her].Dumping someone is hard,you will feel guilty(in your case its justified)and you probably will cry.
If you do it in writing she will still want a verbal conversation with you to make sense of the breakup.And will bug the hell out of you till she gets the verbal explanation.
You will be fine just keep the bigger picture in your sight and don't be convinced otherwise.Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): Take the easiest route out of this situation for you. If that means writing a letter, sending a text and just leaving then so be it. No one deserves to be subjected to physical or verbal abuse you are worth much more. I can understand that your confidence has taken a huge knock and will take a while to rebuild but you will get there and hopefully find someone who treats you with the caring and respectful behaviour you deserve.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (31 August 2006):
 I agree with the other post, write her a letter and walk away. It is not cowardly to do that - you have to put yourself first in these situations and if you think the break up will provoke violence or further abuse then a written end to your not so beautiful friendship is the order of the day. Good luck!
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reader, Aunt Bunny +, writes (31 August 2006):
 you have to just tell her straight, Im not into this relationship no more, it really does seem hard before you do it but hey once its over you will feel so free, dont make her any promises that maybe you need time apart just tell her its over so you can get on with your life be strong its the easiest thing to do i have been there, i went through hell for six months trying to pluck up the courage to end a 4 year mentally abusive relationship, but it took 5 minutes and it was over! say what you have to say and walk away good luck X
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (31 August 2006):
 listen this is the time to get that courage and prove to her that you still have some courage, if you dont do it now god have you got a very unhappy life to look to. if you cant tell her to her face then try texting her or writting her a letter and explain the reason why you havent told her to her face is because you want no more greive off her. if you dont do it now you are throwing your own happiness out the window and adventually she will finish with you and leave you with no self esteem or cofidence what so ever and she wont care! so beat her to it and do it first and your still have a little self esteem and cofidence to walk away with. if your not happy and you know how to make your self happy why should you punish your self for nothing youve done and stay in this ralationship unhappy it just doesnt make sense. be a man and get out and be strong about it! good luck.
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