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I can't feel him unless he goes fast or I'm on top! Any advice?

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Question - (27 January 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 29 January 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Well Me and my boyfriend have been together for sometime and we just started to get sexually active. About a month ago he took my virginity and ever since then we been having sex but when he goes inside me I can't feel him and it's not small. So i dont know why I can only feel him when he goes fast or if I'm on top. Ohh and does anyone have any positions that might make it Feel better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011):

Does your boyfriend give you lots of foreplay & wait until you're ready before having sex? If he doesn't, sex will be uncomfortable or even painful for you, especially if he has a wide penis. You could be (unconsciously) numbing yourself as a defense.

Try getting him to kiss you lots all over & see if that helps. It may take awhile before the sensation comes back, but be patient. Masq's suggestion of practicing Kegels is a good one, too.

As for positions--sitting up, facing each other is a personal favorite.

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A female reader, maddiee-maii United Kingdom +, writes (27 January 2011):

she never asked for a lecture.

the first post was spot on kegel exercises ect...

To the others, teen sex is happening and we have to give them the facts but also embrace what is happening so that they can enjoy SAFE sex.

She will know all the facts about pregnancy, sti, contreseption ect.. and if she doesnt she can mail me because i dont lecture i give advice.

Teens will only ignore negative advice and focus on the positives and sex is great when done correctly and safley...

Doggy style might work its just trial and error..

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A female reader, wornoutmommy United States +, writes (27 January 2011):

wornoutmommy agony auntI got pregnant at 16. Too embarrased to talk to my mother about birth control, and only 3 months after I started having sex. make sure you're using protection, and not just condoms.

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A male reader, GMAN 49 United States +, writes (27 January 2011):

GMAN 49 agony auntTo can't feel! this is a question i answer wit reluctance and opinion. I feel that 16 is much to young to be having sex. as for the not being able to feel could be lack of girth on your male partner part regardless of your observations. Again this is just my laymen opinion, this issue may require medical help.

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A female reader, masquerade711 Canada +, writes (27 January 2011):

masquerade711 agony auntIf this is a concern you may want to speak to your doctor or gyno about it. We're not doctors and it's hard to determine what could be causing this.

Some tips to improve your own sensitivity...have you ever done Kegel exercises? They're great because you can do them anywhere and no one will be able to tell. You basically squeeze your pelvic walls as though you have to pee and you're holding it in. Do a few reps of these at your desk whenever you think about it and it may improve.

Also remember to ALWAYS practice safe sex!

masq

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