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writes: i have recently discovered the vibrator (rampant Rabbit), which is amazing although I am worried thats its the only way I will orgasm as I havent done this yet with my longterm boyfriend or anyboy friend for that matter.is there something wrong with me?. Is there anything that will help me improve this? Thanks everyone who replies its much appricated! :)xx
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reader, Hannah1987  +, writes (21 June 2008):
Hi
I have been married for a year. I came clean to my husband at the very beginning that i couldnt come without a vibrator. Some women cannot come without clitoral stimulation. This is completly normal. Explain this to him and try and introduce the vibrator whilst having sex, if he really cares about you, he will want you to be satisfied. Let him know you need him too! H x
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi there,
dont worry about it mate. This is a very common problem - a lot of women dont orgasm purely from penetration. Most of the women I have slept with in my life ( more than a couple ahemmm ahemm) needed clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
I am lucky in that my wife does cum through penetration alone, but the important thing to remember is that you try different things. If you need to do the same thing to orgasm it can become a bit easy to settle for that( after all it is a guaranteed way to bring yourself off).
How about seeing if he can get you off with oral for a start, try different things with each other.
Then if all else fails you've got your little wabbit to help you out!
good luck
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reader, maid_Marian_vetbabe + ♥, writes (2 June 2008):
 Hey honey!
A vibrator gets exactly the spots you need getting to make you orgasm, with 100% accuracy and consistency, unlike a boy!
But boyfriends are very willing to learn what you want to have done and are willing to help you come!
It took me 2 years to be comfortable asking for anything sexually... maybe im really shy like that but whatever! Dont be afraid to ask for what you want! :-D learn waht your body likes and then show your bf how to do it... also give him a bj and then ask him to return the favour if hes willing... ;-D its pretty awsome!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Hi, well like was already said it could be you are more relaxed alone but have you thought about using the rabbit with your boyfriend present? Some men wouldn't want to know but other men would be quite turned on by this, you might be too. Oh, and no, nothing is wrong with you! Good luck and have fun, babe x
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Ah yes. The Rampant Rabbit. I'm afraid that Anne Summers has a lot to answer for. Good, isn't it?
I don't think it will be a problem for you. The orgasm from sex, good sex, is rather different from the purely physical sensations from a vibrator - even from something as effective as the varieties of Rabbit. Did you know there's even one that.... oh, perhaps not here. Let's just say they're getting more inventive all the time.
I'll put it simply. Sex with a mechanical toy, nice as it is sometimes, can never, never come close to the pleasure and orgasm you can experience from a real, live lover. It's far more than a physical thing - although, for me at least, it only ever worked properly with a very few of the lovers I've had in the last thirty-three years since my first. But when it does work... never mind "fireworks" or "the earth moved"... it's like nothing you will ever experience. No "Rabbit" comes close. So don't worry about it!
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reader, PeterPan  + ♥, writes (2 June 2008):
 Your age wasn't included in the post, so I'll just make this generic. I don't think using a vibrator will effect to orgasm with a current or future boyfriend. In fact, I think that's one of those rampant rumors that gets spread around. Of course, the concern about having an orgasm with a boyfriend might be either your ability to allow yourself to relax and accept the pleasurable sensations enough to see it to the end... or possibly your partner isn't up on his techniques. It's my understanding that most women have difficulties with vaginal stimulation to climax.
Of course, there's the more direct approach -- the next time you're in bed with your boyfriend, give him more instruction and/or hints that are moving you closer toward orgasm. We guys take helpful hints well, but if you don't tell us, we'll go with what's worked in the past for other previous partners.
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