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I blocked him on facebook but I'm still worried about my safety! Should I notify the police?

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Question - (5 June 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 7 June 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

alright so there's this boy who was really socially awkward so I tried to talk to him every now and then to help him out of it. Then he asks me out through facebook so I say that I'm not interested but he hunts me down and tells me in person, I tell him straight that I don't like him. So he starts sending me messages on facebook, like stuff I'm interested in, so I think he may be stalking me. Then he starts writing me poems and being really creepy like. So I tell him that I don't like him because I like someone else but he keeps messaging me, I've tried everything telling him to stop constantly, threatening the police, etc. I showed my friends the stuff he's sent me and they say I should go to the police because he's stalking me. Well I blocked him on facebook and he hasn't talked to me since so maybe he FINALLY got the message but I'm still worried about my saftey. Should I still be worried or should I actually call the police just to be sure?

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A female reader, :):):) United Kingdom +, writes (7 June 2008):

It seems this boy isnt used to attention, so isnt sure how to handle someone being nice to him.

You made the right decision cutting contact with him. If all his messages and poems have been fairly innocent then give him the benefit of the doubt.

If you are still really concerned, keep a diary of the messages he has sent or anything he has said. The police would then take your situation more seriously.

Good luck

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A female reader, Star_07 United States +, writes (5 June 2008):

Star_07 agony auntDefinately tell your parents! I would not go to the police right away but possibly if he shows up at your house or whike you are out somewhere, you should consider getting a protection order against him. That way, if he comes near you, he could be arrested. For now, just do not keep in contact with him!

You know your situation better than I do so if you really fear that he is stalking you, talk to your parents and get a protection order.

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A male reader, bfire United States +, writes (5 June 2008):

Most likely he was just hoping you were playing hard to get. He may have got the wrong idea about you helping him out and talking to him. Got some mixed messages. Some guys can be lame and push it too far, and it is just uncomfortable.

Fearing for you life though, I wouldn't worry too much about that. If he talks to you again, then worry. But he may have finally got it that you really aren't interested!

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A female reader, lotus mama808 United States +, writes (5 June 2008):

lotus mama808 agony auntI wouldnt go to the police untill he does something again. Chances are he got over it, or found a different girl to creep out. I cant say for sure, however, so in this case, you need to use your best judgement. There might be serious evidence of him being a threat to you that I dont know about, so this one is kind of up to you. Maybe it would be good to go to your parents, kind of let them know what this guy was doing, ask them what they would do. Anyway, it's always good to tell your parents about stuff like this, they come in handy;) I still tell my folks about these kinds of happenings, and I'm 25! Good luck

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