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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Alright. So, I met this guy a couple of years ago. It was a double date, and I was on a date with his brother. Months later, we had a class together and reconnected based on our first meeting. He remembered me from that double date, and he didn't even remember the name of the girl he was on a date with. We became really good friends in that class, and I developed a crush on him. Sadly, he was dating someone pretty seriously, so it couldn't go anywhere with him. We remained friends even after the class, and we would talk whenever we saw each other. Fast forward a year. We ran into each other at the store, and we talked for about half an hour. He was about to leave for an internship, and I was leaving for a study abroad in Europe. Later that day, he messaged me and said that we should get together before we left -- but it never worked out due to timing. Fast forward three months. He returns to school and graduates, then moving to another state. Weeks later, I return to school. Present time: I'm currently completing my last semester of college. This guy is in another state prepping for grad school. Ever since I returned from Europe, I have talked to this guy every single day via texting and messaging. We talk about every topic imaginable. Come to find out, he broke up with his serious girlfriend about 8 months ago. So he's single. I guess I'm just not sure what to do. I feel like we're in a weird situation being in different states. We have so much in common though - including goals and dreams. I just really see a future with him, but I don't know if I should say something or not? I want him to say something... and I feel like if he wanted me in his life, he would say so. But maybe not? All I know is that he has been in my life for 2.5 years and after all this time, we have only grown closer. Should I just speak up? Should I voice my feelings? Or should I not?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (2 December 2015):
 Of course speak up. You will always regret it if you don't. And your introduction to the topic could always be a question like: 'I wish we were closer so we could see each other now and then. What do you think? We get on so well. Should we consider moving nearer?'
Obviously you will put it in your own words. Seriously don't let the chance slip by. You can't really be worse off if you do get a negative response.
Good luck. I hope it goes well.
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