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writes:I have recently met a girl. I dont know her very well--in fact i barely know anything about her other than her name and im not sure she even knows my name. We havent swapped numbers or anything and ive never seen her outside of work. However she has asked me 3 or 4 times to attend a play that she will be starring in. She seems like she really wants me to go and when i suggested i might not be able to go she said "oh please come, please try and come" etc. giving it the puppy dog look lol. Shes just been coming up to me out of nowhere and asking me to go. I just can think why she would want me there as we know so little about each other. I think she likes me, but for some reason i just feel wierd about the whole thing. Also, im nearly 22 and she is 18. Its not a huge gap but i do feel odd about this as well. So: does she like me? And if so should i go out with her and is the age thing an issue? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 18 to 22 is 4 years… even at your age that’s not much at all. I’d not even call it an age gap to be honest…
Does she like you? Probably enough to invite you to see her in a play… I’ve often found that folks that act like a full house and will invite as many people as possible to the play they are in. I have a co-worker like that. If she lived closer I might go… but her playhouse is an hour from my home so I don’t attend.
To figure out where you stand with her I would ask her out for coffee or something and see how she reacts… she may like you more than just as an audience member/co-worker kind of thing but there’s no way for us to know this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): If you wanna see the game, go see it and then see what happens. By her reaction afterwards then you know if she just wanted an audience, of if she is really interested.
If you don't wanna see the game, tell her you cannot come but invite her for something else - icecream, a coffee...anything simple. If she's interested in you, she will say yes.
If she says no, she's not interested in you but in the games she can play with you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): The age thing isn't an issue in the slightest.
Next time you see her, you approach her and tell her you'll go under the condition that she agrees to go for coffee with you sometime. You'll know instantly whether she's interested in you or not, or whether she's just trying to drum up business for her show. She won't think twice if she likes you, if it catches her off guard and she hesitates then maybe it's not on and you were better off not turning up to her show on your own.
Either way if she agrees, then grab her number and start the whole fun game. Remember, even if she doesn't seem all that interested go for it anyway, it's not hard to change a woman's mind and she's definitely being pretty insistent about this, so chances are high there is interest.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 March 2013):
 Does she like you? She's interested. Beyond that it's hard to say. She wouldn't keep seeking you out if she wasn't at least interested though.
Is the age thing an issue? Nope. You're both legal, both adults, not really that far apart. I've dated in that age gap with no problems.
I think you should go to her play if you're interested in her. If not, then don't go. If you do go to the play, make sure to tell her what a great job she did immediately afterward. That will be a good way to gauge her reaction to seeing you show up.
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