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writes:Ok I Had this one friend in 6th grade and I had a crush on him. after 6th grade he moves away and I haven't heard about him since. Years pass and I join Myspace I enter his name and find him...it has been 11 years since 6th grade and we now keep in touch with one another...in fact I went to visit my home town during the summer which is California and he came to see me twice...we talk almost everyday...before I left to California he sent me a message saying that he would get me back into shape looking all sexy and stuff.....after I send him a few pics of me from my cell phone he says Youre pretty if we weren't friends I'd flirt......He has a girlfriend now...he called me up last weekend to tell me that he was having problems with her and that he might break it off he said he would call me back and he never did...Funny thing is that we never really talked on the phone except 3 or 4 times for a minute or 2..He calls me and we are on the phone for like about 45 minutes and than out of the clear blue he dumps his girlfriend problems on me. I told it will work out and he says otherwise....Well things are now good between him and her, but I annoyed him somehow cause of a message I sent him over some comment about me going to school...Well she left to London for 1 whole year to go to school and he will be without her for that long.....He is my friend and those feelings of crushing on him are back in my heart...I care about his happiness, but I truly feel like he could be the one to save me from myself and from my life, but I would not want to impose that on him....How can I find out if I have a chance with him without jeopardizing our friendship?well he is not a player...He is a very serious person. He would not hurt her....but as for me. I really care about him and I feel that I love him, No I have not told him and no I am not going to tell him, cause I feel it's not right and I do not want to ruin our friendship......In fact I have not talk to him for about a week now, cause I don't want get hurt...his girlfriend left a few days ago and I know he needs me to get through it, but I am going to let time go by and see what happens...i care for him so much I am putting his happiness before mine. No he has not said that he wants me or nothing...he has had nothing but respect for me since the first day....but my question is..are those things he said just a friendly kind of flirt or is it possible that he might kind of like me? How is a girl suppose to know?i don't believe he wants his way with me and also wait a year for his girlfriend....he is not that kind of guy...He's sweet, honest straight forward no kind of B*ll Sh*t kind of guy. He has never disrespected me in any sort of manner...Except when he says things like Or your pretty if we weren't friends I'd flirt or when You come down here I'm going to work you out and get you lookin all sexy again...it makes me wonder if he is trying to hint something to me...He tells me things like Call me no matter what or be safe......it feels so nice to hear things like that, but I think maybe I am reading to much into it. I care for him deeply and I am thankful for having him in my life, but like I said his happiness is more important to me and I will not jeopardize his relationship by telling him how I feel.......but what I want to know if the things he said where some kind of hint or what? Why out of the clear blue would he call me tell me that he is going to have a serious talk with his girlfriend? I mean I know we are friends and that is what friends do, but he's never called me for more than a minute and 2nd he's never really talked to me about his girl.......So I am confused. His exact words were" She thinks I am neglecting her, but it's my work I am busy all the time...She is busy too, but she is busy with her friends...so on my days off I call her up and see if she wants to go out and she gives me attitude....Being in a relationship is like an investment I am investing time, money, and in the future I want to have a family and children" I told him that things were going to be ok and that they will work out...He didn't sound so sure and said no I don't think so...He told me that he would call me the next day or the day after....he never called me back and I found out that things were ok about 5 days after we spoke cause I text him...I feel sad when him and I aren't talking, but I respect him and I am going to give him his space, besides he hasn't once tried to contact me...So I don't know I am confused can anyone give me some clarity?Well i promised myself that I would not contact him for a whole week, but can you imagine my agony..we talked everyday. Well tomorrow it will have been a week and I am going to contact him...I can not believe that he has not even made the remote effort to contact me...he is supposed to be my friend.....anyhow I hope all is well...I am %100 sure that he won't try anything with me, but his words confuse me...What kind of game is he playing? Does it mean that he is the kind of person that likes to play around a lot especially with peoples heads? Here is our last conversation since we last spole which tomorrow will be a week......WELL EVERY NOW and THEN HE'LL PLAY HEAD GAMES WITH ME BUT JUST LITTLE SIMPLE GAMES...LIKE FOR EXAMPLE HE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS REALLY BUSY CAUSE HE WAS STARTING A BIZ ON THE SIDE...I WAS JOKING AROUND and ASKED HIM IF HE COULD GIVE ME A JOB...HE ASKED ME IF I HAD ONE HE SAID THAT I COULD PROMOTE HIS STUFF IN WA STATE...I ASKED IF HIS BIZ WAS LEGAL and HE SAID THAT IT WAS A SECRET and THAN I TOLD HIM THAT I DID NOT WANT TO WORK FOR A BUSINESS THAT I HAVE NO ABSOLUTE CLUE OF WHAT IT IS ABOUT...AFTER HE GAVE ME THE RING AROUND HE FINALLY TOLD ME THAT IT WAS A CLOTHING LINE...ANOTHER TIME WHICH WAS RECENTLY WHEN WE LAST SPOKE HE TOLD ME THAT HE WENT TO THE MOVIES WITH HIS GIRL..HE SAID THAT HE SAW HALLOWEEN and THAT IT WAS WEAK, BUT IT WAS AWESOME GETTING A THRILL OUT OF HIS GIRL HE SAID THAT HE HAD EXPECTED MORE...i TEXT HIM and ASKED HIM IF HE HAD EXPECTED MORE OUT OF THE MOVIE OR OUT OF THE NIGHT...THEN HE REPLIES WITH THE MOVIE NOT THE NIGHT I'M A BORN AGAIN VIRGIN and SOMETHING ELSE ABOUT EVERY WEEK. THAN i ASKED HIM YOU ARE A BORN AGAIN VIRGIN EVERY WEEK OR YOU LIKE MESSING WITH MY HEAD EVERY WEEK? hE SAID WHO KNOWS SO i ASSUME HE LIKES PLAYING GAMES WITH MY HEAD...WELL ANYHOW SO i DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK i'M CONFUSED and i HAVE NOT TALKED TO HIM SINCE THAT DAY What am I to think? Help i need some clarity
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (27 September 2007):
 Didn't you all ready post this one. I'm not going to comment on the whole thing, just the who knows part. I would have simply told him, you do that's why I'm asking. I wouldn't ask if I though you didn't know.
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reader, Uncle_Phil  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 I didn't have the time to read all of that, and the capital letters gave me a headache, but from the first few paragraphs I would advise that you either call or text him, and tell him that if ever he and his girl should split, he should give you a call. I think he'll get the message loud and clear.
Phil
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