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writes:im 18 im sleeping with my 35yr old boss for the last 2months. i cant stop tinkin bout him!!!!i tink im falling for him!!hes married with 2sons aged 1 and 6 he doesnt no dat i no hes married with kids ive never seen the wife or kids but my frend sed the kids are gorgis but the wife isnt great looking. anyway i feel guilty and confused wat do i do!!!at work its little bit awkward but after work we have the best time together all my frends sed im a fool but i cant get him off my mind he is sooooo charming aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!i need help!!!! Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): It's always fun to have an affair. I'm in the same situation as you. He's obviously bored of his marriage and kids and is looking to spice things up a bit. Call it a learning curve. Try not to get pregnant too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Men don't leave their wives. It has nothing to do with whether or not his wife has gained weight since the children. She's still having sex with him. He's still telling her, "I love you, sweetheart" before he leaves for work. You're young, uneducated, and easy to manipulate. You have zero expectations of him. You don't share children, a mortgage, chores, a LIFE. You're entertainment for him, not more emotionally valuable than playing a game of basketball with the boys. Threaten to call his wife and tell her, he'll likely threaten to kill you with his own hands, and you'll see how much he "loves" you. He loves his family. He loves his children. He loves his wife. You're entertainment. You're replaceable. You're nothing special. He's just an asshole. As are you. Decide for yourself what you want, but don't think this is going anywhere other than in and out of a bedroom or back seat of a car or wherever it is you're doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): listen, I do not think that you are stupid for doing what you did. I GET SO ANGRY when I hear others reprimanding you for something so utterly ridiculous. Let me tell you something my love, MEN ARE DOGS. They want sex, sex, sex all the friccin time which is fine- you know why? I'll tell you WHY... their wives have stopped taking care of themselves number one. They stopped showering 3 times a day, fixing their hair, putting on makeup, wearing sexy lingerie, all the things that MEN LOVE they don't do anymore. You cannot blame an 18 year old GIRL for giving into her most basic human condition- the carnal instinct. True, it won't turn into love or at least a somewhat meaningful relationship..He has already lied once but if it's amazing, racing- heart. sweaty, unhibited delicious SEX then WHY THE FUCK NOT..and btw- pregnancy is absolutely 100% NOT SEXY and neither is breastfeeding (the only person who should be sucking on your nipples is your HUSBAND or another woman- hehe) Not your fault that his wife is boring because let me tell you- I bet that you are half her size and twice her boobs ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): i am in exactly the same situation.. im 18 years old and my boss is 36, it all started with harmless flirting but now it has escalated in 2 a full on affair. he is married with 3 kids and i am in a relationship, but i cant stop thinking about him.. he has asked me to run away with him but i know its wwrong and want to stop.. we both need to think about what is important and that is the children and the people that we will hurt if we get caught.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): You know he is married with children. Why did you get involved. You are a child but beeing naive is not an excuse. You are stupid and thoughtless. Wait until he has left his wife before going near him. Why does your generation act like slappers dropping your knickers without a care for anyone else. He doesn't want to leave his wife. He want thrilling sex with a young body. Any young tart will do. You are being used. Stop thinking about yourself and do the decent thing and stop it. I am the wife in a very similar situation and the pain it has caused me, my children and our unborn child is immeasurable. He hasn't left me and never would. Teens of today have NO morals and are uneducated. Get a life for yourself, a life that isn't all about drinking/shagging/being a tart/hurting others, Have some self respect. If there were not girls like you then men like him(Like my husband who have no morals aswell)would have no one to cheat with.My husband told her lies that it was over, I never slept with him(I'm pregnant!!!)He wants a wife and family and the trill of an affair. Not much of a man! I hope you get lost and she doesn't find out because the pain is excruciating for the wife. Try to better yourself (educate) so you can have nice life and make amends for your behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): Obviously you are a product of our public education system. Please learn how to spell and write in complete sentences. I hope you are using birth control. Our society cannot afford another generation of idiots.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): You are literally playing with fire. You need to stop sleeping with him, RIGHT NOW and if necessary, look for another job!
What will happen if his wife finds out, or if you become pregnant?
Your friends are right: you are using bad judgment and very foolish to sleep with a married man, let alone him being your boss. Your boss' supervisor could well fire you, if not both of you.
By the way, you REALLY should try to work on your spelling! Use the spell-checker tool on your computer!!!!
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reader, ariel  +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Listen to the Aunts on here and your friends,You are being very foolish thinking he will leave his wife and kids for you.
Your job is also on the line,what do you think will happen once this affair comes out in the open? Yip,you are the one that will be looking for another job and what kind of reference do you think you will get.
Look from above Asho320 and save yourself.
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reader, shania +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Iv just answered your 1st letter on your boss not wearing a condom.I totally agree with Irish,this man is using you for meaningless sex and you think he is making you special because he has chosen you to be his lover with no strings attached,sounds like he has the best of both worlds.So his wife doesn't look too special? She cant be that bad if your lover has got her pregnant twice! and he did marry her,so dont go by on what your friend said.By the way,when you start to tell him that its you or the wife he will dump you and you will end up picking your P45.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (24 September 2006):
 First of all, he has neglected to tell you he has a wife and two kids. You found this out and yet you still want to be with him, irreagrdless that he is not only lying but he's cheating on his wife?? What kind of man is do you think he is..what is his true character? But you don't care, right? Because the sex is great and you feel wanted...right? After all, his wife isn't that great looking so he gets sex from you but goes home to her. Do you honestly believe this man will give up his home, his wife, his 2 gorgeous children, his cars and all the amneities and material stuff of a good life...for you? Oh my dear, give your head a good shake. This will not go anywhere and you are being used. Why oh why do you feel so low on the self-worthy scale that this is what you will settle for and you feel, this is all you deserve?? A married man who lies and cheats. That's all you have and to me, that spells 'zero'...nothing. So take the guilt and do something good/annd decent with it. Leave this cad and get another job where you don't have to be around him.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Do you really want to be someones mistress? always being second best, never getting all the time you want from your guy, and possibly never having a future with him as most married men don't leave their wives when they think they can have both and when needed to choose the wife wins most times hands down, and even if he did leave his wife for you, how long before you start wondering when he is going to have an affair behind your back because chances are he will.
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