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writes:im 15 and i love my boyfriend i know he truely loves me because he demonstrates it every day with his actions.We've had sex several times but i feel very guilty afterwards because i feel like im letting myself and my mom down.Im a catholic and my mom always tells me to save myself for my husband and i really wanted to do that but it just didnt happen.The guiltiness wont go away please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Dear Lady,
In India, most of the time, we have it for our husband.
one rule of life is that you need to gave the consequences of all the actions and reactions in this world.
So if you lost it, and your values did not allow it, you shuould have it preserved.
Now you will feel guilty and it is normal. It will go away only with time.
If you marry your BF, you will be out of the guilt for most part.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Confess your sins before God and asked for His forgiveness and sin no more.
I believed that is the only way you can lift the burdens from your shoulders. You have made a mistake and you should not do it again.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 You were clearly raised in a home where sex is something which is only expected to happen after marriage. You have done otherwise, and at a very young age, and so you feel guilty.
You will continue to feel guilty until you resolve this within yourself. If you truly believe that sex should be saved until marriage, then stop having it. Even though you've done it now, it's not too late to stop. Would that make you feel better?
Perhaps you're ok with it, but the fact that you feel that you've let your mum down, is making you feel guilty. I think you're too young to be having sex but I'm not here to judge you at all. Are you ok with continuing to have sex, even though your mum would disapprove? If you are, then you have to find a way to deal with the guilt.
Perhaps this is a good time to think about your values and what you want. Your boyfriend might be a great guy and love you, but unless you are ok with all this yourself, you won't stop feeling guilty.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 I will you tell you a joke to help you feel better. A teenage girl went to confession. Inside the little booth she told the priest she felt guilty she was making out heavily with her boyfriend and one thing led to another. The priest asked her did he touch you? Where? Then he lifted of her skirt and said there? Then he asked did he put a finger inside you? Like this? (Then he put his finger inside her. . . .)
The only sin is not using protection. In Hebrew the definition of sin is to miss the point.
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