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writes:ive been speaking to this guy who i meet on plent of fish for over a year now and never meet untill 2 weeks ago and have met twice now we get on really well over txt phone and in person, but the thing is he told me he wants to be with me and would like to move in with me eventually ,My problam is im 5 months pregnent and not with the father just a one off with an ex and he doesnt wanna no the baby at all the reason is i do like this guy off pof a lot but in never thought we would actually meet as thought over a yr must of met by now, and now i dont no how to tell him im pregnent and dont wanna loose him what do i tell him any advice
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reader, love-sometimes-perfect-othertimes-it-sucks  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 There's nothing better then telling the truth; take your best shot. Go for it! (;
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reader, Odds +, writes (9 December 2011):
 If your pregnancy is going to make you lose him, that won't change just because you don't tell him right away. Do it as soon as possible so he won't think you've been hiding it. It's your best shot.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 December 2011):
 OK, so if you don't tell him, what happens then. How are you gonna hide your belly and then the baby. Somehow I think he might find out if you keep seeing him.
Tell the guy, maybe he'll understand, maybe he won't. Or just dump him, and worry about how your gonna cope as a single mother with a new baby.
There is nothing else you can do, he may think your pregnancy is fat, but he's not gonna buy the story that the baby is your young brother or sister for long.
JUST TELL THE MAN OR LEAVE HIM ALONE - YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING ELSE
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 December 2011):
 This is not something you can pretend isn't there, you are 5 months already, trust me it won't be long. This you have to be honest about. You think he will want to be with you if he find out you lied?
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (8 December 2011):
 You have to tell the truth to him no matter how scared you are because he will find out and he will be hurt that you missed that large detail. People do not like it when they are not told the whole truth and this is not something you can sweep under the carpet. Before this gets way too serious you have to tell him. If he does not stay with you then he is not the one for you and you will find love again. its easier said than done but you have to stand up to your responsibilities and sit him down in a private place and tell him the news. let him take a moment to digest this and see what he says from his reaction. Some men do stand up to the mark and others run away. you have a child on the way and that is your number one. Just tell him you will feel better and you will know the truth. Good luck hun all the best aphex xx
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (8 December 2011):
 It would be wrong and dishonest to keep quiet. He would find out eventually anyway. When he finds out, he would probably not continue with you because he would do the maths. The best way forward is to be honest and tell him what happened before you meet or further things anymore. He then has the option. Or, you could send him a "dear John" message or disappear without saying. For my part, i would be honest and then put the ball in his court. If he wants to continue with a pregnant girl then that would be his choice. With honesty, he may well continue with you.
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reader, amzzie +, writes (8 December 2011):
Be honest with him if you been talking to him for a while am sure it won't bothered him because he got to know you xxxx be honest xxxx
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