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anonymous
writes:Me and my fiancee just made 2 years we have a 6 month old son, i am 19 and he is 24 and we plan to get married next year. Here is my dilemma im in love with him but not physically attracted to him. I like my guys muscular at least somewhat, he is very skinny with a bit of a beer gut, and horrible posture, he also kisses badly, and I'm big on kissing, it is always way too sloppy and he puckers too hard and his already small lips disappear, he has his days when his kisses are amazing and i'm instantly turned on this only happens maybe once every other month, those are the days when i enjoy sex. The other days in between I force it and pretend want in order to avoid the argument where he says its my fault im not attracted to him and I need to fix it, i have tried to force it and tried to train his kisses even make my kisses wet as well so i won't notice his sloppiness, nothing is working and i'm starting to resent him for it and becomng more and more sexually fustrated, the actual penetration feels great and oral is good at first but as he gets aroused his mouth gets too wet, like the kissing, and i feel like im in the bathtub and it feels too awkward so i just cut it short and go right to the sex to get it over with and thankfully his first round only lasts 3-10 minutes, which would usually upset me but i just wanna be done with him most of the time, so a second round which would last a bit longer, seldom happens. so the penetration is ok but for me personally good foreplay leading up to sex, is what i need to have good sex otherwise i have no interest prior to sex im actually turned off 90% of the time and need to use lubricant to even get it in, I would never consider cheating because it's not worth losing my family over, but i do flirt just to get that butterfly feeling again that i can't get from my fiancee and i badly want to make out with someone who can kiss, i fantasize about it all the time, cheating is not something i want to do, I want to touch my man and get aroused. so i'm stuck sexually frustrated and resentful of sex all together. Any suggestions Please!
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reader, Jeffro1977 +, writes (3 October 2010):
Communication is the key. Guys that are in love usually make an attempt to modify certain behaviors for the well being of the relationship. Let him know when he is kissing you the way you like. And kiss him back the same way so he feels what you are doing. And you don't like that he gets slobbery. Did you ever tell him that?Number one rule. Don't be scared that your going to hurt his feeling by being honest to him. Your going to hurt him a lot more when he finds you in bed with some gym freak.Tell him about his oral sex problem. He probably loves to take care of you, and you will get more satisfaction out of your relationship with him if he knows. Just say "Hunny its to wet down there and I can't feel you as much." Guess what he is going to do? hahaAnd how are you looking these days? Got a little belly yourself? Maybe some stretch marks? Starting to see the wrinkles? Boobs starting to sag?Hey, no one is perfect. Get your guy to workout by suggesting to go to the gym yourself. He is going to go with you believe me. And yes while he is there he's going to work out like a maniac because he'll be scared of his new competition.But If you can make the sacrifice and goto the gym yourself on a regular basis, If you can't be straight up and tell him about his kissing and his oral. Your relationship will end. Then 2 years down the road your going to have a new boyfriend that is yelling at your kid because your kid has turned into a monster because all the drama that has been brought into the kids life and is acting out.-----------So some pointersFirst have him masturbate you to orgasm before you two have sex. Second, ask him to stop watching porn and masturbating on his own. Third, take care of your man everyday. If your mouth hurts your hands hurt. Then just kiss him while he takes care of himself.Enjoy your new super kissing sexy boyfriend that you're going to love being married to =]
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (3 October 2010):
 u are only 19,and u act like ur 30+! if this guy doesnt satisfy u now,think of how uts gonna get in the future. ur screwed.....honestly u need to do something about it asap. have a guy talk to him about how he can get cut up (toned up) at the gym or somethin.but anyway hun attraction is what u need to look at first,and since his physical appearance turned u off from the begginin why did u end up bein with him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 The only advise i can give you here is to teach him what you like, you say he can kiss good so tell him how you like it. keep reminding him how u like it, and as for the sex again tell him what u like, teach him to be better.
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