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I am insanely in love with her but am terrified to say in case it ruins what we have as friends.

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Question - (28 October 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 October 2008)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I've got this friend. I'm 21, and she's in her early 30's. We're quite close but not in a 'talk to her every day capacity'. But, I know I can trust her to go talk to her if I'm trying to deal with something.

I met her about 5 years ago, and we instantly hit it off, but we became a lot closer about 2 years ago. I'd call round to hers sometimes, and we'd chat on the phone too.

I am insanely in love with her, and that's why I'm here... I want to tell her so badly how I feel for her, but I'm so afraid to. I don't want to jeopardise our friendship by telling her. I'm not sure if she already knows how I feel. I think she has to know by now, I feel I make it so obvious, but maybe she just thinks I'm a friendly, outgoing kinda girl!!

Sometimes I feel that she might feel something for me too. I'm not sure though. She'll say things that imply that she's possibly playing with my head a little, and those cheeky smiles that she gives me!! When she talks to me she'll stare into my eyes. Sometimes I look away because it feels that we're gazing at each other for hours, and I know I shouldn't, because it's not exactly sending the right signals to her!

I love her and I want to be brave enough to find out where I stand, because I've felt like this for long enough. But how do I find out?? Do I have to come straight out with it?

Guys, if anyone could help me out I'd really appreciate it... Bottom line is that I don't want to lose a great mate, but then again I guess it's up to her to be mature enough to handle it gently. But, I'd hate to see her get mad with me and throw me out - it would kill me...

SO WHAT DO I DO?????

Thank you all

xxxxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008):

Hey,

weren't you the same one who posted this thread?

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-she-playing-with-my-head--should.html

I did answer and had asked you a few questions as well so that I can understand the situation better.Why are you asking the same question again

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008):

tell her

trust me.. ive been in the same situation ..if you dont say it will just eat at the friendship and things will become weird. honesty is the best policy..

and if shes a great friend even if she doesnt feel the same way she will still understand =) and you will always have a great friend.Xx

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