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writes:I used too be able to give a blowjob like a champ. But..lately... (past year), my jaw keeps locking, and cramping..And my neck begins to get really tight, and extremely sore.I started to stop inbetween and using my hands, and then start all over agian and so forth. But..it doesn't help the aching of my neck and my cramping of the jaw and so forth.We tried many positions one time, just to see what would make it feel better for me, and the only one that felt great, that didn't cause me any pain or cramping was me laying on my side, and him laying on his side. But..he said it was in an awkward position, and it wasn't getting him off very well. What should i do? my partner loves getting blowjobs, but i hate going through pain! He only last like 15-20 minutes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): A good blow job should mix a hand job in with it. That will give your jaw a break here and there. 15 to 20 minutes is too long. If you want him to cum sooner, massage his balls while you are sucking his cock. Start out massaging them gently then gradually increase the intensity of the squeezing. Get his cock good and sloppy with saliva, then use your hand for a bit until his penis dries out. Then start using your mouth again. If you can tolerate it (by suppressing the gag reflex), deep throat his cock, guys really like that.
If you can find the right position, probe his anus with your finger while you are sucking his cock. If he lets you, moisten a finger and slip it up his butt hole and massage his prostate. When he is about to cum, you'll feel his prostate get hard, almost like a golf ball. Press your finger into the lump that forms in his prostate as he is cumming and you will give him a mind blowing orgasm and you'll get a huge load of cum (so watch out!).
And of course you must finish the job. Don't leave him shooting his load on his belly. Place your lips over the end of his cock and gently (I mean gently) suck as he is shooting his load into your mouth. Don't suck too hard on his cock while he is cumming or you will reduce his ejaculation. One time I sucked so hard on my b/f that he stopped cumming in mid orgasm. He told me it actually ruined the moment.
My b/f used to take 15 to 20 minutes to blow his load too, but if you do all of the stuff I wrote above, you should cut the time in half.
And I agree with the others. It sounds like TMJ.
Do you chew a lot of gum? If so, stop and that might help.
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reader, DoubleM + ♥, writes (23 October 2009):
 The ladies may be right that the problem involves temporomandibular joint (TMJ) syndrome. Some past girlfriends occasionally complained of some jaw discomfort shortly after having learned to give head, but it seemed to go away after a short while.
Personally, I've often been entirely satisfied with "tip sucking," which is apparently much less stressful on a girl's mouth and jaws, and when accompanied by proper stroking, provides an intense and very satisfying release. After all, the head is focus of most of the sensation. Just suck intensely during his ejaculation. That technique, hopefully, may alleviate much of the pain or discomfort.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (23 October 2009):
 Yeah, it does sound like you have TMJ. Go see your dentist.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (23 October 2009):
 They don't call it a job for nothing.
Make an appointment with your dentist. There is a condition called TMJ that might be your problem, or it may just be that you need to use your hands more, it's allowed.
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