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I am getting confusing signals. Is he serious about me or is he playing head games?

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Question - (10 October 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 May 2008)
A female , anonymous writes:

i am getting confusing signals from i guy i like.he knows i like him but he hasent told me if he likes me.here are some of the things he said and done.1.he is always touching my bottom.2.he makes a lot of eye contact.3.i have caught him staring at me.4.he asked if we whrn out if i would tell any of my coworkers (its against comp. rules)and then brushed he hand down my face while staring into my eyes wiyh a silly grin on his face.5.told me he was in a situatiuon he was trying to get out of when i ask for his phone#(did not give me his #)6.has my number never calls.7.i called him a chicken jokingly i front of friends and he joked back,but when we were alone he told me he was chicken he was just being cautious.8. alaways joking about us doing sexual things together. 9.told me about his really bad divorice 1 and a have years ago.10.told me we had alot in common when i told him i was just looking for a friend with fringe benefits.11.looks at me differantly(sappy eyed).i need to know if you think he is serious or playing head games for the attention.or if you think he is scared and holding himself back to see if we realy like each other.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008):

i am in a similar situation, but it has been going on for TWO AND A HALF YEARS. i get the same garbage: he grabs my bum, hugs me tight, nuzzles my neck, holds my hand, send me provocative emails, but then i don't hear from him for months. then it starts all over again. my feeling is that this guy is a narcissist - -he doesn't really like himself and is scared of intimacy but is addicted to the high of little disconnected spurts of attraction. i would kick him right to the curb -- this is what i've decided to do with my guy. I would also ask him "are you interested in dating me? what are you looking for precisely?" --

i know I have had issues with low self esteem and this is why i attract f***** up guys like this, but I am going to surmount this problem!! i suggest you do the same.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006):

He is playing mind games, he probably loves the way you melt when he looks into your eyes, or the way you squrim when he flirts. He probably gets a kick out of it. He is using you as an ego boost. However on the other hand he could really like you. Sounds to me though like he is using you for his ego and having fun taking the mick. Be careful as he knows you fancy him, so he is not taking you seriously therefore he does not respect you.

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A female reader, snowbird Canada +, writes (10 October 2006):

snowbird agony auntYes, but just check out whether he is married or in a relationship - it is suspect that he will not give you his number, and will not make a move - also is so concerned about you saying anything - the rules at work could be a smoke-screen, making it 'safe' for him.

He has no right to be grabbing at your bum if he does not want to go out with you!

Otherwise, yes - he certainly seems keen on you! Do take care, however, as he may just be a flirt!!

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A female reader, vina_101 United Kingdom +, writes (10 October 2006):

vina_101 agony auntHe probably does like you but enjoys having your attention. Treat em' mean keep em' keen. If I were you I'd just go and ask him. Don't beat around the bush. Just get on with it. Ask him if he likes you. Go for it. You'll no longer be confused once you ask him how he feels about you. I hope all goes well.

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