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writes: I work in a hotel as a manager, and we have a long term regular mon - fri guest,who i get along with very well. He is staying with us for the next 18months, due to work commitments.We have been out a few times with some of my colleagues.We seem to flirt a lot, long looks, slight touches, text messages. Invitations to his room. (Which is not supposed to happen)I know i am falling for this guy and really don't know what to do.He has a girlfriend of 18months.What should i do? Do i tell him how i feel? Do i wait for him to make a move? Please some genuine advice would be great. Thanks
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reader, sarah36 +, writes (25 July 2006):
sarah36 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, Just a quick update onmy dilemma, i wrote Falling for a customer at work.
The guy in question, had a girlfriend, he actually has split up from her, after telling her he was interested in someoe else, because he wanted to be with me. He also approached my boss and my regional manager and asked what the consequences would be to me if we started seeing each other, and they both said none, because he is a long term guest and not a 1 nighter and the fact that they knew about it all.
He did all this without me knowing and then we got together, and are happy, i know it's still early in the relationship, but so far all is good.
So thanks to everyone who gave me their advice, i used it wisey and did not pursue it myself, but left it to him and i think you will agree he handled it the best way and in a rather nice way to.
Thank you
Sarah
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reader, amelia +, writes (30 June 2006):
I would say STOP! Your jobs on the line with this one and he has a girlfriend. This is not worth pursuing - the position would be VERY DIFFERENT, if you were planning to move company and he didnt have the girlfriend - but this is not the situation. Steel yourself and think PROFESSIONALLY, he will have a lot more respect for you. And you will have not put your job on the line xxx
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reader, sarah36 +, writes (30 June 2006):
sarah36 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks DrPsych,
I know your advice makes sense and it is the right thing to do, but stupdily i feel like a teenager, because i have allowed myself to get into this situation, and fallen for this guy.
But i know deep down you are right, i will keep you posted.
Thanks for your advice.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 June 2006):
 Although you like this guy you have to put the brakes on this right now before it gets out of hand for all sorts of reasons. As this is your place of work and you hold a senior position in the hotel it is very important not to step over that line with a customer however tempting - if you two have an affair then it will start 'office gossip' at your place of work, you will lose credibility with junior staff and you still have to check this guy into his room long after the flames of passion have died down. The fact that he has a girlfriend is just a second reason not to embark on anything with him. If he is giving you the 'bedroom eyes' at the hotel while he has a girlfriend tucked away somewhere then it means there is a good chance that he won't stay faithful to you if you two were to hook up. You would constantly be wondering what he was up to when he was away on business trips based on your experience with him so far.
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