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I am confused and disappointed at this guys lack of attention

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Question - (14 February 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 February 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hi, and thanks for deciding to read this.

Today is valentines day and I'm not the lovey dovey type normally but I think it's contagious coz I really wanted to ask this boy in my class out... and I haven't asked a boy out for years and I don't know the best way to do it.

Also, our shcool does this rose deliverie service and I know this sound stuck up and that but I was really hoping I'd get one but I didn't even get smiled at today :'(.

The thing is now I'm really confused because this guy I liked has been blanking me out for ages but I think it's my fault because last time I kinda didn't say anything and just smiled but he didn't even reply so neither did I. But apperently he is a player and only goes out with girls in his year (he's one year old - yr 8) or above.

Wow - I'm sorry if your brain has dribbled out of you ears in boredom or something coz this is really long.

Cheers,

H

xxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008):

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Cheers for the replies.

I've always been a bit to old for myself but it can be pretty useful; I tried asking a boy out today but I could pluck up the currage and go up to him - which is atually a first.

Thanks again,

Heli

xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008):

your in YEAR 7!?! so is my baby sister! is this really what she's thinking about at her age? bugger!

huni at your age you shouldn't even be bothering to worrying about things like this. also if you've heard he's a bit of a player it really seems like there is no point anyway. just forget him and move on to someone else. you have decades to find the right guy. just have fun at the mo.

good luck!

lizzie xxxx

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A male reader, maverick United Kingdom +, writes (14 February 2008):

maverick agony auntHello there?

I take it you must be in year 7? Don't feel bad, my love-life was a mess in in year 7 but things will get better. And don't worry the post was fine.

Now I know I'm going to sound like a really old fart, but you are still young and you have a lot of time to figure out this dating thing.

Typically when a girl is interested in a guy, she will do a few tell tale signs, like playing with her hair, tunring her full body to face him (even if your on opposite sides of the room), and other stuff - since your both so young you probably won't have developed the body laguage gestures and even if you did he might not spot them....

So your best bet, maybe just to say hello in passing and make eye-contact to start with. If that's a bit scary you can do what the police do... look at his eyebrows. It will "look" like your making eye-contact but it wont be so intense for you. Try it with a friend and see how they react. Eye-contact is base for pretty much every single human-to-human contact.

This all sounds weird, but it's easier to go from "Hello", then to "How are you?" then to "I'm going to somewhere over the weekend, would you like to join me?"

Also, you never ask someone out... you INVITE them out! "I'm going to the cafe, you can join me if you like?" Is a lot more easier than "Will you come with me to the cafe?". If they so no to the invite then its not a problem, you're going to go out and enjoy yourself anyway, if they say no to the asking out one... well then you can be open to rejection.

Jsut take it slow and make surte you two can talk to each other first. It will also give you a chance to figure out if you can put up with him or if him being a player is going to do your head in. If he is a player think carefully - as no gilr in high school is going to change a players ways.

Over the next few years you will be lucky though. As a girl you have access to Cosmo and other gilry mags and help... so give it a few years and you'll know what to do by yourself.

PS - I didn't get anything for Valentine's either :o(

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A female reader, lushlass93 United Kingdom +, writes (14 February 2008):

lushlass93 agony aunteeee my school does the rose delivery too!!! if you like this lad but he isnt payin attenrion to you make sure he likes you first but dont go all over him and do anything for him because that is a big mistake[trust me i did that in yr7 and it didnt help] i didnt get a rose today and im going with someone but saying that i dont like that stuff dont do just anything for this lad there are plenty of others out there and you are only young

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