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writes:Im a 21 year old male(just so you know=) me and my cousin who is 24 we have always been close to each other. I always stayed at her house when we were younger and hung out alot not thinking much of it. We would even hold hands in public at times. Of course me being so young i didnt know about "incest" much or what "wasnt right" occasionally now we still sleep together. We always hug each other and kiss each other on the cheek when we say hi or bye etc. We even send each other text messages saying we love each other and how attractive the other is etc. I guess due to her being so close to me since i was little i got the impression that closeness was "ok" and i had no idea it would lead to incest,i ended up getting invloved with my sister later on as well. My cousin wants me to marry this other cousin we have since she likes me so much etc. but i have no feelings for that cousin. Ive read so many incest cases on here etc. but i guess what im trying to say is im tired of this "incest thing" at times it just seems i cant stop or pull away from it,i love them so much and i have a hard time resisting the temptation i just want to stop sometimes. any advice would greatly help and ill be glad to tell you more details if u need to know so u could give more advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): To the last poster, I doubt your story is real. It must be fiction because you said you are female, yet you talked about your COCK! But if it is real, was it a one-time thing, or did you and your sister have some kind of ongoing sexual relationship for a period of time? Also, how old were you and your sister when this sexual boating incident occurred?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I had to take my summer vacation with my parents. There
was nothing else for me to do. I had wanted to go with
a couple of guys from my college class, but I simply
didn\'t have the money to do what they wanted to do. So,
just to have a vacation and get away for a while, I
went with my folks to the mountain lake they liked so
much. The home that they had bought was pretty small,
just a cabin, really. It had a tiny veranda that
actually served as a boat dock. It was a neat place; I
liked the solitude. But, there was my sister.
Two years younger than I, she always wanted me to take
her out on the lake in our small rowboat. I actually
thought about taking her out there and leaving her on
the lake and swimming back, it irritated me so much.
My folks jumped my shit about my attitude. You know the
drill, \"She\'s your sister, blah, blah.\" Yeah, so I took
her out on the lake with me. It wasn\'t really so bad,
but a drag nonetheless.
Hated her always hanging around. That is until one day,
I really began to love it.
It was hot; the air in the low mountains didn\'t get as
cool at night in the higher elevations. The lake was
large. I couldn\'t even see one end of it from the
other. I wasn\'t having one hell of a good time, but I
wasn\'t actually unhappy. Boating was interesting. My
sister, Charlene, would simply lie back in the boat and
get some sun. She was going to burn, and refused to put
on any suntan lotion.
One day in particular, she was really, really red, but
insisted on going out to the middle of the lake to jump
off the boat and go for a swim. Today, she wore a
bikini type of bathing suit that really showed off her
body. There were stripes all over the place on her skin
from wearing different bathing suits. She looked like a
bowl of mixed ice cream --- strawberry in one place
vanilla in another, and chocolate here and there. She
was a mess.
Actually, I liked it a lot out in the middle of the
lake. I could relax in the sun.
It was a particularly hot day. I had worked up quite a
sweat rowing out to the middle of the lake. I lay
there, in one end of the boat, Charlene in the other.
\"You\'re going to burn, Charlene. Let me put something
on you.\"
She shook her snotty little head. \"I want a tan, an
all-over tan.\"
Ha, I thought. \"You\'re not going to get an \'all over\'
tan wearing that suit,\" I said. \"It\'ll leave stripes
all over you, just like you have now. You should see
yourself. You\'re a mess.\"
She looked at me. She blinked her eyes rapidly and her
chest heaved, the nipples on her tits showing through
the material.
I had hurt her feelings. I could see a tear gathering
the corner of one eye.
\"Really?\" she asked, choking back a sob.
I shook my head. \"Not really, I\'m sorry.\"
She looked down at herself, and then, without another
word, reached behind her head and pulled off her top. I
was surprised by the sudden display of naked female
flesh. She was beautiful. Her tits were perfect round
little melons, centered by dusky red nipples each
sticking out firmly. Her tits were upright, jutting up
in the air a little.
I looked around to be sure that no one was approaching.
Off in the distance, I could see another boat, one with
an outboard. It was heading in the other direction.
To my total surprise, Charlene bent forward and hooked
her thumbs in the band of her bikini bottoms and
slipped them down to her ankles, and then she kicked
them toward me.
\"There,\" she said. \"No more striped tan lines.\"
There was a sudden lump in my throat, and one in my
trunks. I tried to swallow. That took care of the lump
in my throat. The other lump would have to wait, I
figured.
\"Put some lotion on me now,\" she said. And she looked
right at the bulge in my swim trunks. Without saying
anything she lay back in the boat. There wasn\'t a whole
lot of room to stretch out; she had spread her towel
across one of the seats and turned on her stomach, her
nice tight little white buttocks in the air.
Her legs were slightly parted. I could see her pink
rosebud of an asshole, and beneath that, her pussy lips
were parted. Each lip was peppered with dark brown
hair. The inner lips were visible, wet and pink. God,
was I going crazy, or was my own sister making me
horny?
\"Well?\" she asked, looking back at me. \"Are you going
to, or not?\"
I reached down and picked up the suntan lotion. With
shaking hands, I squirted some into one palm, then
shakily maneuvered myself closer to her. I glanced
around. No one in sight.
I began by spreading the lotion on her lower legs,
lifting one and rubbing it in as quickly as I could.
I could feel my heart pounding in my chest, my blood
was racing. This was amazing, I thought, my sister,
great body, naked right in front of me, and with her
cunt as wet and spread as that, I could see everything.
\"Ah, that feels good,\" she said.
I rubbed her legs for a few moments, then moved my hand
up to her thighs. I rubbed the lotion on her thighs,
then moved toward her inner thighs with both palms, my
hands still shaking.
I gently moved one thumb toward each of her spread
pussy-lips. I made contact, and she quietly moaned.
\"Mmmm, Mike, that feels so good, I don\'t believe it,\"
she said.
I needed no further encouragement. I moved one hand
completely across her downy pubic hair, running a
finger along each lip. She shivered and took a deep
breath. Then she turned to look up at me and I\'ll never
forget what she said, \"Mike, umm... can I touch you,
too?\" she suddenly asked.
I looked into her bright blue eyes and was lost, \"I
need to spread this all over you,\" I mumbled, not
knowing how to answer her.
\"Well, hurry up, then, and then take off your trunks,\"
she said with a giggle.
Mesmerized by the sight of my sister\'s butt stuck up in
the air, my cock was thrashing around in my trunks. I
couldn\'t believe this was happening. I bent and took
off my trunks, my hardon jumping up in the air. She
turned and looked at me again. Her eyes went wide and
she sat upright, staring right at my cock. \"Can I touch
that?\"
I nodded, not able to speak.
She leaned forward. I kept my hand on her inner thigh,
and as she leaned, my hand brushed against the downy
softness of her pubic hair. She touched the head of my
dick with one finger.
I gasped. I wasn\'t expecting it to feel like that, and
I felt my cock jerk.
\"You have a nice one,\" Charlene said. She wrapped her
fingers around the base of it. \"Nice and thick,\" she
said.
I looked down at my cock. It did look like a nice cock.
Then, I wondered to myself what a nice cock looked
like, as opposed to an un-nice cock. I laughed at my
thought.
\"What\'s so funny?\" Charlene asked.
\"Just wondered what a nice cock looked like, you know,
instead of an ugly one.\" My voice was choked.
She laughed. \"You ever seen a cock you didn\'t like?\"
\"Not really, but I guess I never really thought about
it.\"
\"You do have a nice one, you know.\" She put her hand on
my thigh. \"I like the way the head is all purpley when
it\'s hard.\"
Her touch did something to me, sent electric waves of
sensation all over my body. She heard my intake of
breath and reached out a finger and very gently rubbed
it up and down a small portion of the shaft of my cock.
The contact sent shivers of delight up and down my
body. My breath gasped at the feeling, the sensations
I was experiencing. I loved it. But, it scared me. I
wanted to touch her, too.
I sat down in the rocking little boat and reached over
and cupped one of her tits in my hand. It was warm to
the touch, and the skin was smooth, like velvet, like
silk. I squeezed gently and stroked upward, and when I
reached the nipple, I rubbed my thumb very gently
across the erect, red tip. Charlene moaned with
pleasure.
She began stroking me then. I moved a hand down to her
bush, finding the twin lips wet. She spread her legs a
little farther apart. We leaned closer to each other,
and soon, our heads were touching, each of us staring
at the other\'s sex. I kept my other hand on her tits,
and moved from one to the other and back.
She bent forward and, moving down with her tongue, she
licked my chin, my neck, and then began kissing my
nipples. I kept stroking her gently as her mouth opened
and she took one of my nipples and sucked on it.
I was in heaven with those sensations. She traveled
further down, continuously licking and sucking, probing
my navel with her tongue. The entire time, she kept up
her stroking with one hand and fondling my balls with
the other, kneading them, caressing them gently. My
cock came into contact with her cheek then, and she
turned and put her tongue on it. She licked down the
shaft of it, and I had to let go of her now, because of
the twisted position our bodies had assumed. She looked
up at my eyes. \"Lay back,\" she whispered.
I did as she asked. Then, I felt her tongue on my
balls. Warm and wet, her tongue flicked out and licked
every crevice and hair on my balls, down beneath them,
even. The entire time, she kept stroking, speeding it
up. She increased speed and pressure, and I knew I was
going to cum.
She must have known I was going to cum. Maybe she could
tell by the way my balls elevated and my hips began to
gyrate. I shot my load as she continued licking the
base of my shaft and my balls. She stroked and squeezed
harder and faster, and I shot load after load of hot
cum onto my belly.
I lay there for a minute trying to catch my breath as
my sister\'s hands began\\to roam over my cum covered
stomach. Finally I took my towel and wiped myself
clean. She leaned back in her seat, and I reached over
and once again cupped her tits in my hand.
\"Just lick,\" She said.
\"OK,\" I said, my voice shaky and thick.
She lay back and I leaned toward her midsection,
placing both my hands on her cunt. I began moving my
fingers up and down the inner labia, feeling the
wetness there as she writhed around.
I was now stroking it steadily, and I was so close, I
could count the light brown hairs in front of my eyes.
I put my mouth on the lips, and flicked up with my
tongue, touching her clit. She moaned with pleasure.
I moved my mouth upward, flicking my tongue across her
navel, then up to her round tits. I moved my mouth up
to one nipple, caressing it with my lips, letting my
tongue run across it as I took it in my mouth. She
writhed, her legs jerking.
\"I love that, Mike.\"
I moved my mouth to the other nipple, slowly, my tongue
blazing a trail from one nipple to another. I continued
gently moving my fingers around her pussy lips, feeling
the fine downy hairs running down each side of her
cunt. She moved one hand down to her cunt, and I looked
down and watched her fingering her hairy bush, the dark
brown hair wet from her juices. She spread her legs
wide. I dropped my head down, sucking first one nipple
again, then the other. I swirled my tongue around each
pink-red nipple, then traveled with it to her other
mound, and did the same to it.
Her face was flushed, and her body began to writhe
under me. I could feel the spasms in her legs, and I
moved my fingers back to her clit, touching it lightly.
I inserted one finger ever so lightly into her cunt,
remembering that she said she had never done it before,
with anyone. Inside her, I could feel her muscles
grasping my finger, trying to hold on to it.
She began to moan, and then with a shout, her whole
body jerked.
\"I\'m cumming,\" she whispered.
I stroked harder and faster, and her body gave one
enormous spasm, and she shouted, and then laid back,
eyes closed.
Grabbing my cock, I half-leaned, half-stood over her,
and jerked off on her tits as load after load of white
hot cum shot over her chest and neck.
I leaned back onto the wooden bench separating the
parts of the boat. The boat was rocking back and forth
dizzyingly.
\"Sorry about that, Sis,\" I said. \"I got carried away.\"
She looked at me and smiled. She reached up with one
hand and rubbed the cum into her tits. She shook her
head. \"Oh no, Mike, that was great. Loved it.\"
We sat silently for a few moments, each of us looking
around the lake. Then, she looked over at my crotch
again. \"You have a nice body, Mike,\" she said.
\"Yours is great, Sis, even though it does look like
Neapolitan ice cream.\"
She smiled. \"I think that sitting out here and sucking
one another will take care of that before the summer\'s
over.\"
We sat there quietly, my cock suddenly beginning to
jerk upward and throb as I looked at my sister\'s tits
and cunt spread before me like that.
\"Let\'s fuck,\" she said.
\"I thought you didn\'t want to,\" I said.
She didn\'t answer, didn\'t say a word. She reached over
and grabbed my cock, fondling and stroking it to full
erection. Then she moved over, and with the boat
rocking crazily back and forth, threatening to throw
both of us into the water surrounding us, sat on my lap
and guided my cock into her hot cunt. Her tits slapped
my face, and I buried my face in those little round
melons as she pumped up and down on my cock.
I could feel the wet smoothness of her hot cunt
surrounding my cock. She moved up and down slowly,
carefully, not wanting the boat to rock too severely.
She gripped my cock with her internal muscles somehow,
squeezing my dick as it moved in and out of her cunt.
I knew that I wasn\'t going to last very long. I was too
excited, too turned on. It was the excitement, the
thrill of doing it out in the open like that, and
especially doing it with my sister so unexpectedly.
Her pussy was warm and tight around my cock. Her juices
flowed down, wetting my cock and my pubic hair. She
jerked and cried out, and I knew that she had cum
again.
I grabbed her ass and lifted her, and fucked her from
below, holding her ass in the air as I did so. I came
again, great gobs of white-hot cum shooting into her
and running out of her cunt onto my lap.
As I stopped, we just sat there, my cock still in her,
the boat rocking back and forth. She used her internal
muscles to squeeze it, milking it dry. I used the
muscles in my cock to make it expand and contract, and
as she sat on top of me, we sat and smiled at each
other.
Slowly, she pulled off me and sat on her side of the
boat. Both of us were naked and had each other\'s juices
all over us, along with the suntan lotion I had spread
on her.
The sun was high overhead, and I knew that it was time
for us to be heading back for lunch.
\"We gotta get back,\" I said.
\"Aw, shucks, Mike,\" she said.
\"It\'s lunch time,\" I said.
\"We can bring lunch with us tomorrow,\" she said.
\"Yes, and stay out all day, and get really burned,\" I
answered.
She spread her legs and rubbed her pussy lips with her
fingers. \"This is the only thing that\'s going to burn
you,\" she said.
I could feel my cock getting hard again. \"Charlene, we
have to get back.\"
She smiled. \"I know.\" She bent and began putting on her
bathing suit. After she had it back on, she turned and
looked at my hard cock.
She climbed over and positioned herself right in front
of my cock. As I rowed, she took it slowly into her
mouth.
I could feel her hands on my balls, caressing and
fondling them. She went down as far as she could on my
cock, and I could feel it at the back of her throat.
As she moved her head faster and faster, I could feel
myself getting ready to cum again. I stopped rowing and
put both hands on the back of her head, holding her
mouth on my cock. I shot a load of cum in the back of
her throat as she tried to move her tongue around my
throbbing dick.
#
A cool glass of iced tea awaited us, along with cold
sandwiches for a quick lunch.
\"You guys enjoy your boating this morning?\" Mom asked.
\"Ugh,\" I answered, \"It was OK.\"
\"Well, it\'s not so bad having your sister along, is
it?\"
I shrugged. Charlene winked. \"Not so bad at all, I
think,\" she said.
And, it wasn\'t so bad at all. Hell, it was great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): if u feel its wrong wich you obviously do or you woul;dnt have written it in then you need to talk with her because she probably knows its kinda wierd too
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): just go with your feelings. dont let anyone tell you something is wright or wrong. hell you only live once just do what ever makes you happy
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reader, int5 +, writes (9 November 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni answered that in a previous reply,for the last timme,i asked on advice how to stop.(its consensual FYI)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): You have told us how your cousin feels about your relationship with her, but how does your sister feel? Does she have the same love feelings for you that your cousin semes to have? I know you find the sex with her exciting and addicting, but how does your sister feel about your sexual relationship with her?
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reader, int5 +, writes (27 October 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats ture,the taboo factor makes it so exciting but addicting
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): Well, if you want to stop and you have tried but you can't, then you need to go see a therapist who can help you break this habit. Either way, you are going to have to tell both your cousin and your sister that you can't continue having sex with them. Maybe see a therapist who is also a certified hypnotherapist and has experience breaking people of bad habits.
One thing that may be making it hard for you stop is the taboo factor. The fact that society frowns upon sex between relatives, especially brothers and sisters, may make the sex with your sister and cousin more exciting for you and therefore, more addictive. Have you tried talking to them about not having sex with you anymore? What was their reaction?
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reader, int5 +, writes (21 October 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneverything is consensual and my cousin is just manipulative i guess you could say(id rather not say why she wants me to marry the other) but im not here to discuss that i asked for advice on how to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): You said you became sexually involved with your sister becuase you "just developed an attraction" for her. But I do not understand why she is having sex with you if she is also involved with someone else. Did you ask her to have sex with you and she agreed, or was it something that just happened?
Also, if you are also sexually involved with your cousin, why does she want you to marry another cousin? I do not understand that either. Does the cousin you are sexually invovled with not want to marry you?
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reader, TSTVLVR_23505 +, writes (12 October 2007):
My sisters and I have always been sleeping in each others beds, taking baths and showers together. All three of us and our mother would watch. When I was masturbating watching my sisters Marcy and Amy since I was 10. We have always been close since they caught me, tried to teach me a lesson by dressing me up in their underwear and dress/make me up. They seem it made me hard and we started playing around. Mom caught us fucking on her bed, with me dressed in lingerie and joined in. She said, finally and just started in. Later we would have aunts, cousins and I would be dressed and loaned out to our mothers friends. To the root of it, I say go with what feels good, in your heart and well other places too.
Chaz/Chay (when dressed)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): You should probably talk to her to see how she would feel if you suddenly stopped having this kind of relationship with each other.
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reader, int5 +, writes (9 October 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontot he male reader anonymous, i just developed an attraction for my sister i dont know how. She is involved with someone and has kids but nobody knows about us in that way. You do make a great point because I too have developed an emotional bond realyl strong and when i try stopping it seems i cant cause i dont want to hurt anyone.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (9 October 2007):
 Well, here are just a couple of considerations to stop. Usually children raised together develop a sexual aversion to each other, this is mostly due to our God given sense of morality and concscience....that seems to be lacking in your character, I am afraid, and this is why I think you need some therapy, to help you find your moral compass.
Another reason incest with siblings especially and first cousins is that if you were to have offspriing they are very highly likely to be deformed genetically and or retarded in some way mentally, it is proven...even primates won't mate with their closely related siblings, they seem to know better.
What seperates human beings from animals is our sense of morality and concscience, even though a lot of people like to think that this is imposed by society, I can assure you it is not, it something uniquely humanesque and is in our DNA.
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reader, int5 +, writes (9 October 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto the anonymous female, Thanks SO MUCH for your advice. Its not all cause of societies views there are other little things here and there BUT I think I have made up my mind,like u said why stop right?=) I do care about them and yeah i guess you can say I have something going
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Your situation is very complex. I understand how you got involved with your cousin, but how did you end up also having sex with your sister? Does your cousin know you are having sex with her? And how does your sister feel about having sex with you? Does she enjoy it? Please post back and tell more so I can better understand the relationship you have with your sister and provide feedback on how to deal with it.
One thing you need to be mindful of is that the longer these two incestous relationships go on, the more like it is that both your cousin and sister may start to develop very strong emotional feelings of love for you. Once they start feeling that way, it will be hard for them to end their relationship with you. One thing you might try is going to wwww.incestboard.com, an incest site where people involved in incest give advice to others on this topic.
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reader, martini  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 To Ms. Anon below about sex and taboos, I want to congratulate you on abandoning a religion that is so full of it - bluntly put.
Secondly, from a completely neutral standpoint, I totally agree with your words here: "The idea that sex feels good to test our moral conviction is a ridiculous notion carried over from the highly repressed Puritans society that burned people at the stake."
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Incest is a taboo for two primary reasons. The first one which is the important one is genetics. After many generations of incestuous relationships recessive traits start showing up and the health any offspring will decline. As long as you don't intend to have children with your family members this isn't a problem.
The other reason incest is taboo is because of Christianity. I was brought up Christian and have since turned my back on it for its contradictory tenets and often harmful influence. Sex is a natural process yet Christians treat it like its a sin second only to murder.
It's this repression of our natural urges that leads so many people to criminal behavior. The idea that sex feels good to test our moral conviction is a ridiculous notion carried over from the highly repressed Puritans society that burned people at the stake.
So my advice is, talk to your cousin and your sister about your reservations. Tell them that you don't feel comfortable anymore with pursuing a sexual relationship with them. But be sensitive and tell them WHY you're having trouble. They will feel hurt and jilted, they will feel rejected and probably resentful. You have to reassure them that you still love them, but that societal pressures are too much for you to continue the relationship.
Honestly though, if you love them and they love you, then why stop? It's not hurting anyone, why should you feel guilty for sharing something so beautiful with two women that you love? Make up your own mind, don't let society try to tell you you shouldn't do it. Who am I or anyone else on here to try and tell you that what you're doing is wrong?
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reader, int5 +, writes (1 October 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondont worry about it! I make my own choices
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reader, dildofun  +, writes (30 September 2007):
you are a sicko!
seriously keep it in your pants
or sleep with a hooker
god you sickooo
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (30 September 2007):
Going to a therapist shows that you are taking responsibility for your problem and that you realize that you are the one who needs to change and recognizing that you need help, or a different way to think about things to get there....seeing a therapist is a sign of strength, not weakness......and avoiding talking to one because incest is a taboo subject is just more of the same thing that keeps you stuck making the same mistake over and over.
Trust me your therapist will have had experience dealing with all kinds of subjects including ones that are uncomfortable to talk about, like incest....lift the veil of silence and shame and go speak to one and see if they can help you gain some insight into yourself and help you effect change in your life, which is what you want, right?
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reader, int5 +, writes (30 September 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTake responsibility for my actions? what exactly do u mean? You make it sound harsh. I understand thats their job but cancer isnt a taboo sunject like incest,which is why i dont want to see a therapist about it. Or i should say which is why im confused and not sure what to do
Toeveryone else Thank you for your advice and please keep it coming. To the anonymous female thanks again
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (29 September 2007):
Hi, there is no need to be embarassed about talking to a therapist, that is their job, to help you...if you had a malignant mole on your butt, would you be embarassed to talk to a doctor about it knowing that cancer could kill you? Of course not. Take responsibility for your actions and ask for the help you need from a person who can actually help you.
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reader, SalemsWhispers +, writes (29 September 2007):
 I can understand how you feel, but I suggest keeping away from them for a while & seeking professional help.For it looks like you might need it. In the future you might never know yet run into your future love & how will she feel when she learns the truth about your past incest relationships....especially if you have not gotten help for your problem...but if you have gotten help & she learns that it was a problem only from the past then she should be ok that it won't happen again......As children are little & curious we can not help what we do as children, but as adults we need to realize what is wrong & find a way to fix our problems
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reader, int5 +, writes (29 September 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for that information. I truly appreciate all the advice. Im just too embarassed to speak to a therapist or anyone about it. Any other advice? Thinking about it,i see your point,my cousin just wants her own personal satisfaction although she is hard to resist sadly shes part of the 'negative'. I just find it SO hard not to give in to the incest temptatios BUT I think youll be glad to know that for a few days now I have stopped talking to my cousin,maybe not permanantly but I dont want to see her in person cause i know itll start back up. So i guess you cans ay im isolating myself from her for now,maybe this is a step,i dont know. With my sister,i havent done so yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): There is something called 'constellation' family therapy which you may also find useful. The one thing is that you now instinctively know in your heart and soul this is not right and, although it doesn't seem so now, you are actually in more control to remove yourself from it than you think. Imagine, really imagine, your life and how it would be without these people as part of it - as this may be the only option - certainly for a while. If you can face some isolation it could well be the opportunity you really need for your own personal growth. You have no chance of growing and simply being 'you' with all these controlling and very unhealthy relationships surrounding you. I wish you strength and luck to find the right path.
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reader, int5 +, writes (29 September 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto the anonymous female reader
Thank You for your response i truly appreciate it. It means alot to me and i will keep you updated.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (29 September 2007):
Sorry for my typing, the word is co-dependent.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (29 September 2007):
I am very concerned about what is going on in your family...have you been sexually abused by a family member, possibly male when you were younger?
This is a family problem in my opinion and there is a reason it is going on.....perhaps you live in an alchoholic home, many children of alchoholics do not learn how to set healthy boundaries for themselves and can become victim to co-dendent relationships where they are more concerned for pleasing others than for taking care of themselves.
I think you should seek some help to deal with this dysfunction in your family unit....seek the help of a professional family therapist, you go alone, you will learn alot about yourself and how to set healthy boudaries for yourself....Incest is not OK, it destroys lives, and you are suffering perhaps even from depression over this....so please speak to someone about it and start to change your life for the better....you can start with asking your family doctor for a referral to a therapist.
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reader, DrPsych + ♥, writes (29 September 2007):
 As an adult male you now recognise that what has happened is wrong - legally and morally. In the UK, relationships including marriages with first cousins are permitted by law but I appreciate that your State may disallow such things. Whatever the circumstance, a relationship with your sister would always be taboo on all sorts of levels. You need specialist counselling that is offered by mental health centres to address your past behaviour and your inappropriate feelings towards relatives. I am not suggesting you are mad or bad, but very confused and in need of professional intervention to enable you to form normal relationships in the future.
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reader, int5 +, writes (29 September 2007):
int5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You so much for the reply, i will keep you updated on everything. Thanks for not saying "youre sick" etc. or the typical responses but thanks for wha you wrote i really appreciate it. Ill keep you updated
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): I believe you've got the feelings of love for family and friends mixed up with the kind of love you would feel for a boyfriend or girlfriend! Obviously you have to take a step back! You're young, get out there and enjoy yourself with non family girls, and then you'l find that one which will make you see the difference between the two types of love!
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