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writes:I sometimes think my longstanding partner is having an affair with a former friend of mine due to his covert behaviour.I know she is attractive and manipulative and would feel good about herself if she got him to leave me.But i have no proper evidence other than what i feel and his constant complaints to me interspersed with comments about other people trying to break us up.Lately i am feeling last on my list of priorities.I cover all the bills and have to be frugal, for which i am boring because i cant spend extravagantly.i am stretched to a point beyond stretch.He complains daily about my settings and yet i am lucky to be able to at least pay the bills.Some people think the affair feeling is all in my head yet that is what intuition is.It blows my mind to think i could make a different life for myself, yet sometimes it seems like a deep sea that i could swim in forever away from people who dispise me!I really must be close to breaking point!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (19 July 2016):
 Kinda seems like the affair doesn't matter, sounds like the end of a relationship regardless. Why is he not contributing at all to the household and just putting you down for you making your ends meet?! I'd go crazy. He doesn't respect you and what you do to survive. If he can't handle that finances are tight for you, tell him to go find a sugar mama and leave you alone!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 My guess is that you may be paranoid but who knows? If there has been no clues at all that he is having an affair with an old friend off yours then it could be your imagination playing tricks on you, have you ever had trust issues or is this a new thing? It sounds like you have issues with this woman and you feel she is out to get you for whatever reason, maybe you need to sort things out with her. Okay so he is a negative person but that is not evidence that he is cheating. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. See what he has to say. If he is not showing you enough attention then tell him. Be open and honest with him. Maybe he is feeling that you are being distant and cold with him as well. You both really need to communicate more and see if this relationship is worth fighting for. So you are tight with money, does he help with bills ect? If not then again you need to come up with a better plan if you are living together. If you are not happy then leave him, build a new life for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2016): The one thing you dont need is two hangers on pretending to like you!Life has strange ways of turning out so if you think this complaining moaning man is hitching with your former friend i think you should just wish them both good luck and leave them to get on with it? Its true that it canbe the be all and end all of some peoples life to insert themselves where they think youve been and a late conquest is better than no conquest at all!
But life does not end there!
Things may improve for you and you can go back to being a solitary soul which may suit you better than you think!
Plus it is likely that better friends will merge into your life!
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