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laineyukirvine
writes: im 28 and have being seeing my bf for 2 years he is married but seperated for 7 years and has his own house as do i he has a boy of 14 and i have 2 kids 7 and 3 the thing is though he wont tell his wife he has met someone we have been engaged for a year but he has not been for divorce yet even though 4 time he has told me he has then i have caught him out. we all stay in the same town but we never go out together incase anyone sees us i dont know what to think anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): this man has no intention of getting a divorce from his wife for you it sounds as though you are just filling in the time while he waits for his wife to take him back
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): this sounds like a difficult situation .have you ever asked the guy why he is not doing what you ask.sounds like to me it some of the blame could be down to you as well .there is 2 sides to a story we are only hearing your side.how can you be engaged if the other person is still married.if your not happy with the situation walk away easy and simple advice
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reader, beula_the_salty +, writes (3 August 2006):
this sounds like a difficult situation but unfortunatly you're going to have to be firm with your boyfriend. he needs to tell his wife about your relationship, he can't hide you forever. i doubt his wife will be too distressed since they have been seperated for 7 years but i would be more delicate when telling his teenage son (assuming he doesn't already know).
about the divorce, talk to him about why he's so hesitant to make it final and make him understand how you feel about the situation.
if he won't co-operate with you on this situation than you need to think about whether this man actually values your feelings and those of your children.
i hope you eventually all becaome a happy family. good luck. x
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reader, RJGirl  + ♥, writes (3 August 2006):
 This man is obviously not willing to give up his wife for you, and he probably never will be. Your engagement was probably a show on his part just to get you to stick around and believe something would come of it. You owe it to yourself to walk out on him. I also think that you should tell his wife what has been going on. It's not fair that men who cheat are allowed to go on cheating. Do yourself and his wife a favor and get out of this relationship and let her know about it. This is all completely HIM-sided and that won't change unless you change it. Don't raise your family with a cheater. Don't let his wife raise her family with a cheater. You both deserve better. Although I cannot tell you what to do, I hope everything works out okay for you. I wish you the best of luck. Stay strong!
~RJGirl
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