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I am back with my ex, now how to let the other guy down gently!

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Question - (10 December 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 December 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

how can i let a guy down ,id split up with my boyfriend about 2 week ago i went out on a night out with friends to a different town and met a man it was nice having attention and a cheeky snog but i feel thats all it would be hes not boyfriend material for me , ive spoke to my ex boyfriend and we talked through our issues and have decided to give it another go i did not tell him about this other man i kissed as it happened when we had split , now i need to cancel meeting the other guy but i want to let him down gently as he really liked me i know i have to be honest but how can i say this to him do i say we can still be friendsor not mention that help

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (11 December 2014):

Honeypie agony auntTo OP. The truth WILL come out, one way or another (Specially if you PLAN on having "snog guy" as a friend)- wouldn't you rather be the one to have told your BF? Kissing a guy isn't (or shouldn't BE) the end of the World. BUT NOT telling can seem like you a keeping it from him.

It really is up to you.

However, I will state that trying to be friends with a guy you snogged on a night out, can be perceived as disrespectful towards your relationship. If he was JUST a snog why the need to keep him around in your life? As a "just in case" the BF doesn't work out?

I DO think it's a little patronizing to go from full on snogging to.. Oh let's be friends and "pal" around, shall we? If you don't that is fine. Maybe then PUT yourself in the dude's shoes for a few. If the roles were reveres, you were single and met a guy whom you snogged and wanted to get to know better - he instead drops the "let's be friends" routine, because he went back with his ex... how would you feel? Or let's say your BF snogged a girl and you two get back together but he wants to remain "friends" with the girl he snogged... you'd be OK with that?

Just give it a little thought.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (11 December 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony aunttell him the truth.

"i'm sorry we can't see where this will go as I don't see you as boyfriend material and besides I've gotten back with the guy I was broken up with when I snogged you"

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2014):

Hi I was in a simular position as you id had split from my boyfriend but was for a few week and a friend set me up on a date we had fun no commitment. my then ex decided he wanted me back and he had been a fool we gave it another go and i stayed friends with the 'fun' guy and my boyfriend knew about him but never complained we are still together and 'fun' guy has a new girlfriend . you can be friends with someone you had fun with it all depends on the person and how they are

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2014):

I'm the op , my boyfriend doesn't need to know about me kissing another man as I was not in a relationship with him when I did it. And who's to say the other guy was just after a bit of fun too he hasn't asked me out , I wouldn't find it patronising at all if it was me saying let's be friends

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 December 2014):

Honeypie agony auntBe honest with both of them and personally, the whole "let's be friends" is kind of patronizing to the "snog-guy" and do you really think your BF would be OK with that?

Use a little common sense here.

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