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writes:Okay my bf and i have been together for almost three months and i am 17 and he is 19. Anyway, I am almost obsessed with the idea of getting married and having kids i mean what girl doesnt think about that, i just want to know if im being too obsessive because i have basicly decided that hes the one...if he asked me i would say yes...Help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): hi i think what it's called is being in the honey moon period with your boyfriend.
i remember when i was 17, that was when i met my current boyfriend. im now 22 and in that 5 years i have know him, you would not berlive how much i have changed since then.
i think aswell now that i didn't really even know me as a person that well then.
i think your young on the grand scale of life so i think that you should get out into the wourld and make the most of your life before you have children.
when you have children you have to give up ur own life and share it, you come second, the baby comes first, so you probably wouldnt be able to afford lots of nice expencive clothes and stuff.
i think that if you want children and marrige with this guy ur with wait two years at least.
people tend to put there best self forward in the relationships at the start. i have heard that aswell you can be in love with the idea of a person. it's goes like this do you know him well enought to know that he is really kind, careing, and will treat you good.
that was an email i read saying how you can be in love with the idea of a man.
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reader, AskSusie  +, writes (27 July 2008):
Hi anonymous,
I'm 29 years old. I think back to the boyfriend I had when I was 17 and wow, I honestly thought he was the one. But now I think to myself, 'if I married that guy, we would so be divorced by now'.
So, from a professional's perspective where I've been there and thought that same way, the answer is NO. He's definitely not the right one.
Now, as for kids - at that age? No way honey. You don't even know yourself at that age aswell as you should.
What should you do? Well, get into life! There is so much our world has to offer - why not get out there and participate in it? Sign up for hobbie groups, meet new people, save your money and travel.
There is so much for you out there - if you don't get into it, you're just missing out!
Good luck following my advice,
AskSusie xx
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reader, bellasmommy +, writes (27 July 2008):
i think you need to slow down, your young and being married and having kids at a young age is HARD! Im sure you hear that all the time but its the truth. Im young and made the mistake of having a baby at a young age ( i love my daughter more than anything, its just hard trying to pay bills and have a job with her) anyways.. you have to get threw the first 8 months before you decide you wanna marry him.. trust me!
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