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writes:Hi,I'm 14 years old and I'm in love with an 18 year old, he has told me he likes me too, but nothing will happen because I am too young, I have just about accepted it, but he has recently said that we should wait until I am 16 so that it won't sound bad to other people. Should I wait for him, or should I move on and forget about him. I just feel like you only live once and if the with the way I feel I have made it my mission now if you understand what I mean, but there is also that little person in me saying, don't wait for him the only reason he wants to wait is becasue them you will be legal for sex. I am so confused and in pain right now. any advice would be greatly appriciated.
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reader, cuninglingwist  +, writes (3 September 2007):
many girls know they are ready for sex at 14, it drives them crazy knowing they can take it, however finding a partner your age thats responcible and knows what he,s doing is tough!no older guy is going to open you because he,s looking at jail time!you may want to find a girlfriend to play with to take the edge off, being bi is not a crime, plus you could learn alot about yourselves.no it wont make you a lesbian!
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reader, BeckyBadger  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hi love your letter, im 18 years old, and i have a boyfriend who is 24, we met in school, he was my teacher, i was 16 at the time and he was 22, we had to wait 2 years to finally be together, but in between we both had different partners, but in the end, we loved each other enough to wait, and on the 1st of september when i left the 6th form, he asked me out, so really, if i were you, i would carry on with life, keep in touch, and occationally meet up and go out somewhere where there are not going to be that many people around so that you two can have your alone time, if it is meant to be then you can make it throug the next 2years, i managed it, and it was well worth it in the end.Good luck! and hope I helped!BeckyBadger xSorry for the re-post!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): Hi love your letter, im 18 years old, and i have a boyfriend who is 24, we met in school, he was my teacher, i was 16 at the time and he was 22, we had to wait 2 years to finally be together, but in between we both had different partners, but in the end, we loved each other enough to wait, and on the 1st of september when i left the 6th form, he asked me out, so really, if i were you, i would carry on with life, keep in touch, and occationally meet up and go out somewhere where there are not going to be that many people around so that you two can have your alone time, if it is meant to be then you can make it throug the next 2years, i managed it, and it was well worth it in the end.
Good luck! and hope I helped!
BeckyBadger x
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reader, auntyluuurve +, writes (3 September 2007):
 i agree with that. he is probably trying to use u for sex as you are young and impressionable and he knows he will go to jail if he has sex with you now.
dont wait for him exclusively.
if you are so sure you love him and he loves you back, do your own thing until you are older and then go back to him. tell him, theres no point in you both waiting and moping for two years but you can stay in touch maybe by email every now and again for the next two years and see how you feel then.
if you give in to your feelings now, believe me a 20 year old man is very frisky and will find it very hard to not try to have sex with you. which weve already discussed as being illegal.
my gut feeling is that he wants to use you as he has found an easy target - look at the facts, what would a 20 year old man want with a 14 year old teenager? i didnt even start my period til i was 15. i was a child at 14, i still had sleepovers and wasnt allowed out of the house without my mum.
maybe hes telling you that youre so mature for your age, but why do u think he would do that?
i say wait, and see how things go but let yourself see other guys in the mean time who are your OWN age.
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