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writes:okay so in my family, my twin brother and I live with our cousins and they have guardianship over my twin brother and I.Just recently they have decided to relinquish that custodianship of my twin brother, but not me. It's because my brother is a little hellion, and he wants to go.I want to stay so I'm really sad that he is going to leave and i just wanted to get this off my chest.I am only 14 and I'm just so confused. Recently I found out that my twin brother is maybe going back to live with our biological dad and i guess there is no question to this, but i was wondering if anyone knew how i could relive this stress from myselfThere is also the stress about going into my freshmen year of high school at the end of next month and I’m class secretary.Also i have volleyball and i have leadership and future farmers of america and i have no clue how i am going to pass all my classes. Because i am in all AP classes and i am super stressed out about it.Also i just got in this huge fight with my boyfriend like 20 minutes ago.. He thinks i am sleeping with his best friend and I’m not. I was super annoyed at him. I’m only 14 and i have my purity ring i would never have sex before i was married, and ready for it....I just need help and advice with this whole situation, please?
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reader, kaitlyn8150 +, writes (22 July 2015):
ive been there, done that. I always had that feeling I wan never gonna make it. but I did. school, work, boyfriend, I thought my life was over. but just wait, in a little bit, it will all be over
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reader, Marebear +, writes (22 July 2015):
Marebear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You so much that really helps and your right maybe I should just drop my boyfriend but I really like him we've been dating for like a year and a half so far and we made it through eight grade why not freshmen year. Also believe me I would love to drop FFA and Girl Scouts and Leadership..but I can't my parents won't let me drop anything because it looks good and college applications to have stuff going on and still be able to keep up good grades.As far as my brother goes...NO my bio-dad is not a good role model at all and my mom just told me last night that we have a court date in place on my birthday!! Which only makes me mad because my twin brother the one I have been with since the beginning might leave on one of the most special days we have together.But thank you so much for your advice and I will definitely take it in to consideration with my boyfriend and my parents..Thanks.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 July 2015):
 Awww, only 14 and SO much on your shoulders!
You need to learn to prioritize. 1. school is one of THE most important things at your age. Boyfriends? not, so much. Specially one who accuses you of doing things you haven't done or would never do.
So, maybe drop the BF and focus on school?
I did AP classes, worked 3 days after school, did track and swim-team + plus getting up EVERY morning to muck the stables and take my horse out 5-7 days a week. I was a super busy teen (actually from I was 12 and up) I didn't start dating till I was 19. I made it work though, and if I could do it back then... YOU can do it now.
But you may have to decide if you CAN handle both sports/FFoA AND school load. Doing AP classes will help you a LOT in your future (as far as college/credits goes) my two oldest kids (15 and 13) have AP classes as well, and while they are hard they seem to juggle school and social life etc. just fine, though NONE of them are dating - they just don't want to.
You are in AP classes because you are SMART and you have shown aptitude for the classes, so you will not fail them. YOU can do it.
As for your twin. That must be hard to be separated from him, but maybe it will do you BOTH good? He will get some much needed MALE role model ( I hope your bio-dad IS a good role model) and you will get some breathing room from his shenanigans.
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