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writes:What are the chances of me getting pregnant my first time? I have heard that you can't get pregnant your first time. I am 11 and I had sex with my dad's friend and co worker, he did not use a condum and he did his stuff in me. Could I get pregnant and what should I do? I really really really like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): ok. 1 - ur 11 years old grl! Have more respect 4 urslef!
2 - u could b pregnant if u were on ur period, have u begun ur period yet? u have 2 tell ur parents, it will b embaressing & u could get in lots of troble but its 4 the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): To be honest i think this whole thing is just a huge cry for attention. I'm 15 and i'm not ready for sex yet, and i definitely wasn't when i was 11
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): why did you do it your only 11 anything could of happend so i think you need to go to the hospital and get check on and also pray about it cause if you are preganent its gonna be bad.i am 12 and still a vergian
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): Call the Cops.
Thats kinda illegal.
he should be put in jail.
your 11.
and thats your dads co worker?
go to the cops NOW!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Hey cool sex is better to start at that age baby,go with it enjoy it and tell him to abuse you more because he will miss it when he will go to jail by the magic word of the judge GUILTLY...
And you stupid to leave time to undress, to put his penis in you,and to ejaculate in you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Call the cops
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Hey,
I'm 16 And I Have Been Raped by A Guy When i was 12 and i'm not at all over it .so baby girl you got to tell someone about this and get some help .
i know i'm still seeing a therpist and she is great so
do it for you self . take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): I think that 700 dollars and a trip to the abortion clinic will fix everything right as rain bby ;D
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Tell your parents,Call the cops,Go to a doctor to get test for pregnancy or STD's that is all I can say, dear god this world is in its final days....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): hello i am 14 you really need to tell our mom or dad they will not get mad at you and you will be glad you did after you did tell them
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): the fact that you asked the question means you not ready to be sexed, this guy needs jailed and casterated
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): You like him? A 36 year old grown man? How sick could he be by even thinking of doing that. These are the type of men who have a physical illness and can't get a girl their own age to satisfy them. My sister was 15 when she was first raped, and trust me, last time I heard about him he was in a loony hospital suffering severe brain damage. It wasn't anyone in my family who attacked him but people who read the local paper. This is what underage sex can get you and your dads friend in to. Please, set yourself free little child, do NOT let this happen again, because trust me, even now this can lead to even more dangerous concequences, what were you thinking? Dang, these days Personal Education teachers don't get paid enough to atleast spend an hour to teach underage children what's right and wrong. I am disgusted.
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (12 October 2007):
 What you do is pick up your telephone and dial 911, and report a rape against a child. What he did was wrong. I know you may like him now, but as you get older and understand more about what happened, that will change.
No one should have this happen to them. Here's something to think about. You like him, let me tell you how much he likes you. You asked about getting pregnant. It can happen. You're body is not all the way formed. How about losing the ability to EVER have kids. Non developed, sex with an adult could equal permanent damage to your reproductive organs. This is how much he cares for you. Most adults know that, and he's willing to risk it to get what he wanted.
You need to turn him in. It's not your fault this happened, but you can put a stop to him so he doesn't do this to another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): Sweet child, you are so young. What this man did to you is a crime. He may hurt other children as well, so you must protect yourself and others. I know it happened two months ago, but if you haven't gone to a trusted adult for help, you must do it now. He is a child molester. He has no right to be with ANY child in this way. As difficult as it may be, you must tell your mother or an aunt or a teacher. Or call a support line (they are usually listed in the front of a phone book). They often have kids help lines. If you have already reported him, then I hope you are getting the help and support that you need and deserve. My thoughts are with you. Be brave, be strong, do the right thing. You've got your whole life to look forward to and when you're old enough, when you're ready, you'll find someone of a similar age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): You may be ok as said in the last comment, but you may have been diseases like AIDS, and let me tell you.. Thats a bad thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): wtf wrong with you call cps on your dad for not takin care of u that a fucken perver
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): k im 12. whatyou did was wrong. and i know its hard to get all this pressure on you from people telling you what to do. all im trying to say is do what you think is right and dont ever meet him again he could be really dangerous.
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reader, stem1981  +, writes (16 August 2007):
The chance of you getting pregnant are HIGH. Have you started your period yet. You are only 11 and should not be having sex. STOP IT GIRL. Sounds like you may need to talk to someone. Contact childline and get some advice from them. You should really go to the police as this is RAPE. You should not be having sex before you are 16. It is ILLEGAL!!!!! - Go to the police. What you are doing is sooooo wrong.
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reader, amber nuttall +, writes (14 August 2007):
This is terrible!You're only eleven! My cousins are 11 and 12, if you was them i'd knock the life out of this guy!Please, for your own sake don't meet him again!Please wait, i know you might not understand. But your so young, you have your whole life to have sex.This guy didn't even use a condom! Thats aweful, hes suppose to respect you. Any man that doesn't use a condom- hes not worth it!Hes your fathers bestfriend! He obviously has no respect for your father. What if your pregnant?He doesn't have any consideration for you, or your father.Lose him, for your sake. I beg you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): I'm sorry and I know that you might really like him, but you are only 11. I'm sure that you know what you want, but this is a grown man. I'm only 16 years old and my boyfriend and I have sex all the time. The difference tho is that our bodies are mature enough. Your body is still young and undeveloped so having sex with some one so mature could be bad for you.**This is also considered rape** So seeing as he did cum inside of you, you should go see a doctor, because the chances that your pregnant are high. Although your body most likely wont be able to handle pregnancy, its just too undeveloped.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (8 August 2007):
Yes, he needs to either not drink or at least drink responsibly. What circumstances led to you two being alone in the first place? Even if you initiated it, he's the adult and should have known better. Talk to a counselor at school first. He or she would probably have the best solution and steps to follow. They are trained with this and might be able to act like a buffer for when you tell your parents.
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reader, agony87 +, writes (8 August 2007):
 No way is it your fault, hes the adult in all this it doesnt matter how drunk he was he shouyldnt have done that so please dont think its your fault.
What about speaking to someone in school like a teacher you really trust. Whatever happens you need to speak to someone...
let us know what happens
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): he is 36 and he is not bad it is me i started the hole thing he was drunk and i got him to have sex with me he did not try anything. i did do what everone said and told and adult i trusted. i dont trust that a hole anymore he is bad and i know i should talk to someone but i am afraid and dont trust any adult now. please help i dont know who to turn to.
sad and crying 11yo
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reader, agony87 +, writes (7 August 2007):
If you have started your period then yeah you could well be pregnant. i know you think you like him but what he did with you was VERY wrong and you definately need to tell someone about this...im not patronizing you but when your older and you realise how wrong it was, it could lead to all sort of problems within yourself (psychological)
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell someone!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): How old is this man? You need to tell your mom or dad. They will help you through this. They won't be mad at you, don't worry. You're a child. This isn't your fault, it's the man's fault. You could be pregnant. He is a child molesterer. You have feelings for him because he was your 1st sex. But it isn't love. He used you. You need to tell an adult please!!
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reader, advicegirl221 +, writes (5 August 2007):
Hey , You can get pregnant the 1st time you have sex, but don't worry , just tell your mum or dad or a teacher at school that you trust, because the man that you had sex with was wrong to do that with you. This man needs to be reported, don't be afraid to tell somebody about him, i know it's scary to tell somebody something that you don't want to but this man is bad news. Don't worry you wont get into trouble but you really need to tell somebody. If you need anymore help then post again or mail me and we will help you. Don't worry all the people here will support you 100%.
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reader, advice 247 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 you should still be playing with your friends not with your dads friends penis. if you cared about him you wouldnt do it again as it is abuse to you and he can get arrested and sent in jail wait till you are 16. there is a chance you are pregnant and riddled with deseases if you did have unpretected sex he could of done that with other people and that is were you can get AIDS or HIV this kills you, go get seen by a doctro ASAP, the doctor will not tell your father or mother as they cant say anything unless you want them to know. go to the pharmacy got a morning after pill. you are so to young to have a baby but there is a possibility you are pregnant. the co worker you done it with has no respect for you or your father he should have waited untill you were 16. you should tell the police as this man you did it with could be doing it with alot of children under age, he is called in england a child merlester.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (5 August 2007):
This is little more than statutary rape by a paedofile.
It is hardly in the same case as if you were 15 and could be confused for somebody over the age of consent.
This guy is dangerous -
Get away from him -
Get out of this abuse.
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (5 August 2007):
Yeah... That's rape. Tell your mom. Or a teacher. Or the police. But thats wrong and your daddy needs help that only telling someone will get him.
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reader, meandmy2 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Honey, you CAN get pregnant the first time. And, what your father's friend did with you is against the law. It is a form of child abuse. You need to immediately go to an adult that you trust and tell what happened. You say that you really like this man, but, sweetie, you are a little girl. At your age, it is perfectly normal for you to notice if a guy is good looking or intelligent, or any of the other things that you have noticed that make you feel like you like him. What is NOT normal is for an 11 year old to be having sex. First of all, your body is in the developmental stage, and even though you CAN have sex, your body is not ready for sex, and this could cause you to have serious problems as an adult, especially if you do decide when you grow up that you do want to become pregnant. Secondly, at your age, having a sexual relationship is really too much responsibility. At 11 you are worried about being pregnant, and that is probably causing you a great deal of stress, right? Pregnancy is not the only consequense of having sex. There are diseases that you can get from having sex. Some of these diseases can make you very sick for the rest of your life; some can even kill you. Sweetie, this man does not love you as a man loves a woman. This man actually has problems, and you need to tell your parents what has happened so that they can help you, and they can help him get the help that he needs for the problems that he has. And, whatever you do, do not let him do that to you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): What he has doen to you is wrong. Having committed sexual acts with you when you are 11, is paedophilia. You CAN get pregnant first time, that is just a myth that is completely wrong. If you have sex, where a penis enters your vagina then you can get pregnant. Even if he doesn't ejaculate. If it was recent the event then I would suggest what is commonly known as "the morning after pill" I would confide in a doctor and they could advise you on what to do if the event was not recent. You still however should tell someone about this occurance whether it be your mother, a councellor or friend. I would seriously suggest going to the police also. I know this may not sound like what you want to hear but he is an adult and you are a minor. what he has done to you is illegal and wrong. If you do believe you have feelings this could purely be down to him manipulating you and you not being aware of it. I hope you listen to reason and seek help from not only doctors but the police also.
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reader, jerseysitalian  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 i doubt you did if you didnt have your 1st period then i think your ok cuz you didnt produce eggs and tell your dad what they did it too you. Wont that basicly be raped?
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