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writes:I always fall for older guys and when your 14 its not good at all. I'm getting really depressed about it becasue every single guy i fancied likes me back but nothing could ever happen because there is ALWAYS an age difference. I've tried being attracted to guys my age, but my natural fancies go towards older and more mature guys. Sometimes MUCH older!! Is there something wrong with me? please help. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): i know exactly how you feel! I always fall for guys who are like mostly 25-35 (m just shy of 17). I'm the type who often falls for teachers. I always feel lame about this because my friends always say how disgusting it is. But I enjoy their wider range of intelligence. Also looks tend to get best at 26 or so :)!. I dont want to get mixed up with creeps though, and I do think 8-15 years is a bad age diff, so i never go after them, I'm going to wait until I'm 20 or so. That really sucks, having to wait, but it's probably best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): Of course nothing's wrong with you! I'm 15, and when I was a freshman, i almost stopped liking guys my age completely. I have a crush on a guy who's 17, and i had a 1 year and 2 months relationship with a guy who's going to be 18 in 2 days.
Guys are still a bit immature even at age 16-19, but that's only cuz they develop later than us girls. This is completely normal and nothing to worry about. I once liked a guy who's nearly 40, but then again he's an actor :)
Don't worriez, girlie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanyou everyone for your answers.
really helpful =)
thankyou
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reader, KeRrI117  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 No theres definatley nothing rong with you when i was 14 i was dating a 22yr old ive always had a thing for older men i suppose your feeling attracted to them for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): omg, i know exaclty how you feel. i am 14, but i have had sexual relations with older guys without them knowing my real age. i am interested in older guys, and i always have been sometimes real older like maybe them being 30, ofcourse they dont look it. its also a huge problem, because the type i like are the little gangsters in los angeles anahie or santa anna or costa mesa well any ways you get the point. i think that if you be very careful and cautious, but you cant choose who you like. it depends how serious you get with them but try not to get to serious over them because alot of older guys want what we call it out on the streets fresh freaky sex. meaning you havent been around the tracks to many times and its easier to take advantage of younger girls. anyways its okay the more you go after older guys you become smarter cause you learn from experience. do not let anyone tell you who to like, because whether you like older or younger guys your gonna make mistakes, and learn from them. so when some o trys to tell you that liking older guys is a mistake then tell them let me make my own mistakes. i know just how you feel!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): theres nothing wrong with you at all, it's quite normal to be attracted to guys older than you, they show caring and consideration towards you that boys your own age don't even know how to spell.
as said before by another reply... just be careful and think of the legal aspects of getting into a sexual relationship with an older guy.
i am in the opposite dilemma, because im in love with a 16 y/o girl and im 38. we have issues regarding opposition from her mother, but technically and legally... her mother cannot stop us from seeing each other. i don't think peoples opinions should stand in the way, it's how you feel inside about that person that counts.
good luck... and i hope you meet the right guy in the near future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): (Mr. Male Anonymous here again)
I'd be the first to agree that my point is not politically-correct at all.
Problem is, it's completely true and it's completely relevant to the discussion.
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (20 November 2007):
 I went through exactly the same thing when i was your age!!!its hard but you cant help who you like =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionexcuse me mr "male anonymous" (the one below) i put my question on here for advice not to engage in a debate about male equality thankyou very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): Oh, please.
The idea that a 15yo girl is at the maturity level of a 20-30yo man is just flat-out idiotic.
Teenage girls are no more mature than teenage boys. If there is ANY difference at all (which I don't think there is), then we're talking about a difference of a year, maybe two years at the most.
This idea that "girls are more mature than boys" is just anti-male discrimination that most of society likes to keep the way it is. The older men & younger girls are both attracted to each other, so most of society just wants for there to be a justificaion to pair off like that. But it doesn't mean that the major difference between the sexes actually exists.
Society (and especially women) has ABSOLUTEY NO PROBLEM holding the older man totally accountable for "taking advantage of an impressionable teen" whenever these mismatched relationships go bad. Well, people can't have it both ways.
It's a "double standard."
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): I think that age should not be a factor in any means. The only true qualities which make a relationship are compatibility and attraction. It is very likely for a woman of about 14 to be compatible with a man around 17, because they genuinely share simliar maturity levels.. Allthough a woman of 14 can be more mature than a man of 35. So, you should try looking for a man, regardless of age, of whom you feel comfortable with.
For example, my romantical interest is 15 while I am 17... I would say that I am a very mature man, and a wonderfully kind one at that. I was raised by my loving mother, and adoring sisters, so my understanding of women is actually more vast then most of mine own age... It is simply chance that I had found such a soul as I have. She is my other half, and her maturity level is astonishing. Her past life is home to horrible events such that any one would have claimed my life and sanity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone I feel like I am not weird or different anymore! =] Thankyou
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reader, AnnaW219 +, writes (18 November 2007):
 no it is natural for a teen to like older guys because they like more experiance some want bigger realtionships and a man that would help you through everything and a guy you could love and no they will love you back and not try and break your heart or maybe its because you've once been out with someone your age and noticed they are immiture and thought they would all be imature my age i want a guy that is mature a guy that could look after me so dont fear this is totally natural just dont go out with really older guys because they could get in serious trouble . you want more info contact me
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reader, Midge + ♥, writes (18 November 2007):
 Nothing wrong with you, unfortunately some of us just are like that. I was always in the same boat. Tried going out with guys my own age, but it never worked.
Finally I found a man that I love and am very happy with. He just so happens to be 9 years older than me. But this didnt happen till I was 23, so if it doesnt happen till you are older, dont panic!!!
Some of us are just meant to wait a little longer than others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): no its not. i am the same. at your age it really does suck. i've been through it. the best way to find a older guy is online. those men wont really care too much b/c they are bored and up for a good chat, and you are looking for a older men to just talk with. who knows maybe it can be more! but i feel you, there were times i lied about my age online. in real life it is just a dream that goes wrong. the best thing to do is wait. i'm 17 right now and i still go through what you are. i usually for men in their mid 20's to early 30's so i know exactly how you feel. just chat with older men online, it will help, but don't meet up with them unless you truly trust them. it will help you think maturely and satisfy you.
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 Hey girlieI know exactly what you are going through. Its pretty scary, trust me. I always go for men that are so much older than me. And I feel that when Im in a relationship with someone my age, I cant get my mind off the older men. But here's the thing. Men are no better than boys. They are just as immature, and mean, but they are just older and have more money. And girls think that men are much more mature and such than boys, and thats why we go for them.But its not true...and we just have to remember that.Im sorry to hear that you are feeling depressed about it, because really it isnt your fault. Its just what you want.And when you are 18, you can do that.But for now, just try to get in a relationship with someone closer to your age and just try to have fun.I hope this helps a little.
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