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36-40,
anonymous
writes: does this happen to anyone else?every time, and i mean every time, i meet a guy and get along with him --meaning we have great conversations, have fun, etc.-- i get terrified that he will want a realtionship with me. however, at the same time, i also hope that they like me (im assuming this is because i want to feel loved). the thing is, as soon as the guy starts making comments referring to him liking me or hinting at wanting more, i get scared. and not in a "butterfly" feeling....its like a physically sick feeling. i worry constantly he'll profess his love for me (which has happened, and i got scared and never talked to them again) i then make sure the guy knows i feel for him as a friend and try to bring that up more often.i dont know why i do this. im 21, and its happened for as long as i remember. i have never had a relationship---sex and great talks, yes, but nothing with commitment. (i've only slept with one guy, by the way) i know i sound crazy, but whats wrong with me? please, any advice or opinion would help. thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, goodaz +, writes (22 December 2006):
 hello! ask yourself how it would make you feel if the guy was more of a bad guy and left you wondering if he likes you or not.would this attract you to him more?maybe your a girl that likes more of a bad guy than a good guy or maybe once you get what you want,you find yourself no longer wanting it.remember these are only a few suggestions.however, i would advise you to look up fears and phobias on the internet/books or something because believe or not there is such thing as 'fear of commitment'.hope ive helped.xxx.
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