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female
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51-59,
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writes:Once one has established that they are in the unhealthiest relationship of their life, how does one tuck the love they have for this other person away and stand up to brush themselves off? I love my husband more than I ever imagined I could ever love a man, however he is playing me really hard with hundreds of other women. I have to find the strength to emotionally detach, I am 100% financially secure without him, I do not need anything from him now that I realize thee one thing I wanted from him, I will never ever have? My heart has a huge gaping hole in it and it is hard to even breathe, I need some really good, really tough advice...please!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Make a plan to leave and stick to it. Don't tell him your new address and make the divorce proceeding arrangements through lawyers. If he knows where you are then he may follow you and try to get you back. If you are certain you wish to leave then do so, and don't come back. You don't have to tell him you are leaving until you have put the necessary arrangements in place for your 'new start' (such as accommodation). If you give yourself time and space away from him then it will give you the opportunity to have some clear thinking about the situation and put his cheating in the right perspective.
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