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writes:i am in a married relationship i am 43 and my husband is 36 when we met we hit it off straight away sex was great and regular we got married a year ago and my husband takes a drug which is called speed i think our sex life has been very boring and we hardly ever make love but when he has taken this drug which is about once a week we can make love 2 or 3 times that night but after that he does,nt want to know i really miss us making love and feel neglected,and then i start thinking he can only have intercourse with me when he has taken something which makes me feel inadequate and worthless,i love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him but if he does,nt want sex when he has,nt had anything we never make love and i miss it so much,i want to make love more with him than once a week or once every 2 weeks and i don,t know what to say to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): Wow, sex with a drug addict. You're in for an interesting ride. His addiction is going to continue to create the feelings your describing in you. He'll be stoned, you'll be sober and in massive pain. (he'll be num). You need to find a support group for women married to addicts and go connect with some ladies that can share with you their story and how they learned not to go totally crazy. it's a tough path, but life gets 1,000 times better, even if he keeps using.
Best of luck- you can't change him, so resist the urge to try. You'll only drive yourself nuts in the process. You didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't change it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): Your husband has a drug problem if he's taking speed regularly. It's illegal, and being in possession or under the influence of it can get him into big trouble. I think you should talk to him about why he's taking speed. It will probably make him mad that you are asking, but tell him it's because you care about him and feel it is a problem, not only for him, but for your relationship.If he wants help, he can join Narcotics Anonymous or a similar nonprofit drug rehab organization. But you can't force him to get help. Try talking first and help him find resources if he wants it.There is a way out of chemical dependency.
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