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36-40,
*dover
writes:My husband of 5 years and I have a good sex life. BUT, he complains that i don't ever do anything during sex. He just gives me my oral and he gets on top then we're done. Honestly, I feel like I put some motion in it, but, he says "i love it, I just wished you would do something" i know im not goin buckwild but i do put some motion in it. I feel like if i don't satisfy his sexual needs he's going to leave me. We're only 22 and 24 and we have a long time to go, I just want him to be sexually happy.
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reader, vix100  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 You don't say whether you have any inhibitions about trying new things. Try one new thing each time and then you shouldn't feel uncomfortable about it. It's easy to get 'stuck in a rut' when you've been together for a while but it's great that he's talking to you about it, and this shows that he wants to improve things with YOU and so I don't think you need to worry about him leaving you. Try giving him oral sex, different positions, different places in the house, etc. Ask him what he would like you to do and how he likes it. Good luck!
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (9 September 2008):
Next time he thinks it's over, you tease him and give him oral till he's hard again, then you can get on top of him and ride him like a horsey!
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reader, lexilou +, writes (9 September 2008):
 It sounds to me that you are stuck in a rut sexually. You need to change the routine. Try making the first move and skip the oral, ask him to give you a massage instead kiss and nibble you from the top of your neck right down to the ankles, not forgetting the inner and outer thighs too. For him, try not to give oral, completely avoid the area but brush lightly past it when you stroke and lick his balls, stomach and chest (I get my hubbie to shave his balls as it increases the pleasure for him ten fold and I dont get horrible hairs in my mouth!!) Maybe give him a massage too.
Try different positions, you go on top for a change, or have way through push him off, pin him down and jump on top. You could tie him up too. If he is on top, try raising your legs higher then normal up to his ears if you can or wrap them round his back, you dont have to buck like an idiot but you should at least be raising upwards to meet his inner thrusts, you will get deeper penetration and more pleasue this way too. Just try and spice it up and try to avoid letting it slip into a routine otherwise you wont even want sex. We have been together 5 years and we constantly change things around and have quite an explosive sex life!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 September 2008):
Well do some foreplay for him, give him and hand job, blow job, lick his neck and kiss his face off.
Get on top and do some other positions. Wrap your legs around him and run your hands round his body and grab his arse.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 September 2008):
 How about you jump on top next time! Gives a whole other perspective on things. Have fun!
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