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writes:I want to know if this is true. I heard someone say "how you get a man is how you loose them" i got with a man that was married and he finally left his wife for me. So does that mean he is going to leave me for anothre? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Oops, not 'Month'. M O meaning modus operandi
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): All I can say is this: Karma is a bitch and when u least expect it , it slaps u on the face.
The fact that u are questioning means that deep down u know what is in store for you and all u need to do is play the waiting game.
I said it before and will say it again: I honestly do not wish that u find yourself in his wifes shoes at all. It is the worse shoes to walk in.
So for now enjoy your Married man but always know, a leopard doesn't change its spots. They just change their MONTH.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): it doesn't necessarily mean he'll do it to you too.So much depends on WHY he married his wife, WHY he left her, and the nature of their relationship.Maybe he married her for all the wrong reasons (it is VERY common) but has chosen you for the right reasons.People should stop assuming that just because a man and woman are married, that this means their relationship is good for each other and should be preserved. many marriages are a mistake and should never have been.If someone leaves their marriage, it is often a sign that the marriage was not valuable to them or was just causing too much pain.It doesn't say anything one way or the other about a new relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Wow, he was married and he left her for you. I wouldn't feel secure in that relationship, no offence. I mean the wife probably thought everything was fine and she got heartbroken when you came along, how do you know he's not already banging someone behind your back?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Let's not discourage her. I hate to think that men just want to find replacements when it gets boring. Be the best wife you can be. You are with him now, it doesn't matter how you got him. Make the best out of it and don't let guilt punish you at the end. He has just as much reason to worry that you would leave him too. You have to show him you have just as much control as him. A relationship is based on how happy you can make each other, and not how you meet and what the other has to sacrifice in order to make it happen. Under the most perfect circumstances of how people meet, the future can still be unpredictable and that makes people insecure. Turn this experience into a positive one. Cherish him everyday and don't take each other for granted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): As Jmtmj said it doesn't mean he will but it does mean he knows he can. The guy likes upgrading his women and it works for him, so he can do it whenever he wants. Plus seeing as you were his mistress you have even less reason to be upset when he finds another mistress to replace you.
You can only live in hope that younger more beautiful woman doesn't enter his life, you will just have to realize you will be looking over your shoulder for the rest of this relationship because his wife couldn't trust him. I'm sure his reasons sound very good to you but there's nothing to say those same reasons don't come back and bite you on the ass.
He's already shown the kind of thing he is capable of and people rarely deviate in their behaviour, just wait until he's secure with you and see what happens.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 It doesn't mean that he will... but since he's done this before and its presumably rewarded him positively, (by being with you), then he's got less mental barriers holding him back from doing the same thing again...
Ever heard of positive reinforcement?
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