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How would you label someone who isn't attracted to either gender?

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Question - (22 November 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 23 November 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am not attracted to either gender or interested in having sex. So what am I supposed to be classified as? Asexual, in my opinion, is mainly about sexual relationships. I don't find the human body of either gender to be attractive. I've had relationships in the past with both genders, but I wasn't "attracted" so to speak.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009):

What you're describing is the definition of asexuality. It's an orientation, like being gay or straight, so it's irrelevant whether you're in a relationship or not. I second that you should check out AVEN at While some disorders might have an accompanying lack of sexual interest, asexuality is not a disorder. It's uncommon, but it is not abnormal.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009):

It's called asexual. If you are asexual you don't feel the need for sex, or it can be that you don't find anyone to be sexually stimulating, that you're not interested in sex with neither gender.

Often asexuality is a symptom of a personality disorder. You could check it out to find a better understanding of who you are. If you possess other symptoms, like lack of desire to meet people or bond and make friends, or lack of empathy towards others and similar "different" features, you might have a personality disorder.

Im not going to say this is a bad thing, but if you are confused as to what you are or what to call yourself, it could help you out.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009):

Wrong, asexual is the word you mean!

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (22 November 2009):

Why do you need to label yourself?

Personally I classify myself as an "Emily" which is probably different from everything else.

If you aren't sexually interested in either sex then you probably are closest to being asexual. Which in a way is great because you can get get a group of really close friends, and curl up with them knowing you aren't going to complicate things with sex.

The key thing is to not care "what" you are and just be who you are. LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!

Good Luck!! xx

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