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writes:I'm a lesbianI met this girl online and we met for cofee last week, we got along well, had things in common.laughed and I thkn there was a tiny sprak there. She is a naturally friendly person.Today we went on out second meeting for lunch, not a formal "date" we got along well, had things to say, laughed a bit and had things in common, but there was no physical contact and no romance. We both like movies an she asked if I wanted to see a movie sometime,then we said goodbye. Should there be romance and on second metting? how will I know when we meet again if she thinks I'm a friend or a potential date? Do I ask hre if she likes me? I dont want to tell her I like her if she doesnt like me! I think i like this girl but I'm not sure if she likes me as a maybe date..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, I will not ask her if she likes me, that's a bit much. I'll just meet her again and see how things go. I guess that being cool and relaxed is OK and so is having fun and having some things in common, I just dont want to be so cool that she thinks i'm not interested at all!, then it will definitely head down the "just friends" path. I guess maybe she is thinking about it too, maybe not, well see..
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reader, GLASGRL  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 Hi there, I am a lesbian also..
Firstly i would relax and take each moment you share with her to continue to learn more about her, her life, past and present situation. dont focus so much on whether you like her or if she likes you and so on, or that is what the start of this relationship will become for you..
you'l be to occupied annalyising every conversation or moment asking what it ment or mayb ment that youl end up missing out on any specialness it did have.
she will pick up on this as youl be unable to act your normal self..
see every meeting as progression and let things happen as they are ment to, if they dont they simply wont.. least then youl know you have at least been yourself...
she will be asking herself questions as well so allthe better that you dont. give her the time and spave also to allow her to sort out what she feels. all will happen in good time..
i hope it works out for you.. remember just have fun.. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): You have to take this one day at a time. Go out for drinks etc and i am sure that in time if there is anything there you will be able to pick up on it. She may even say herself, but if i was you i wouldnt ask her. Just be yourself, have a laugh and dont get too serious about her, just incase it isnt going anywhere. But be cool, nobody wants to be with someone who is rushing things and serious from the start.
take care
xx
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