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writes:I am in a relationship with a woman and I am also a female. She's slightly different from the other girls I've dated. But in a good way.Well, we really love each other and have been going out for a while now, and we both agreed we are ready to have sex. She doesn't like to be fingered or use a dildo. She said "I'm gay. If I wanted something inserted in me, I would turn straight and have sex with men." Which I totally agree with her, and is willing to not do that to her.So, I'm left with just eating her out. How will I know she's 'done'(orgasm)? This will be her first time having sex, so I decided that the night is going to be "all about her".When I usually have sex with women, it's easy too tell because I can feel the tightness on my fingers etc... But how do you tell when you are eating a girl out? I know alot people say 'listen to her moan'. What if she's not that type of girl that moans?Women can have multiple orgasms...so how will I know how many she wants? or when it's okay to stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): you will know when she starts shakin and maybe she dont moan maybe she will breath heavy and unevenly
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Normally she will have a physical reaction and after she orgasms, she will push your head away - the clitoris is insanely sensitive afterwards, if you keep licking away it's going to be painful for her and her reaction will be to make it stop.This though: "I'm gay. If I wanted something inserted in me, I would turn straight and have sex with men." Come on, girl. Do you think that means that every straight girl who likes to have her boyfriend eat her out is really a lesbian? And every lesbian who likes penetrative sex is really a big old Hetty Betty? As for girls who like anal, they must be gay men in denial or something. The reason I'm picking on this is because every time I've been with a woman who said something like that (and it's been a few times now), the woman in question turned out to have some serious issue with her sexuality. I've been with women who weren't crazy on penetration just because physically it wasn't their thing, but the ones who said "because that's for STRAIGHT PEOPLE" - beware of that. Talk to her about it and figure out why she's so scared.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (23 March 2009):
 An orgasm is charecterized by a rapid and involuntary contraction of a woman's vaginal and PC muscles, sometimes even their abdomen and cervix.
If you are concentrating your focus on her clitoris, by licking and gently sucking, you should eventually bring her to orgasm. However, not ALL women are multi-orgasmic.
What you should do is sit down with your girlfriend and have a talk about sex with her. Ask her the questions you asked us, and she can much better explain to you if she is multi-orgasmic, where/how she likes to be given oral, etc.
She is the best source of information you will have, since we cannot really tell you how she is going to be. Only she can tell you for 100% sure.
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reader, damluvaam + ♥, writes (23 March 2009):
 How many?...she'll let you know, has been my experience. When she's had enough, she'll stop and have you stop. I guess her body gets very sensitive and she cant take anymore.
And have you given a woman oral sex before because I guess I dont understand what you mean here because when you give a woman oral sex, it's normally so easy to tell when they orgasm. Moaning is just one thing the women I've been with do... So, maybe I dont understand what you're saying....if that's so, i'm sorry.
Denny
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): You sound like a considerate lover already and I well know the anticipation of wanting to make that occasion special and just so...
There are as many ways to perform felatio as there are names for it.
I know women get heated by the tip of the tongue riding around the tip of their clitoris and I've scrutinized every millimetre of vaginas till they have cum plenty.
Some moan, some shudder, some convulse, some tighten, some get juicy, some get electric shocks, some get warm sensations.
Fact is, you can't always know and many times a woman has told me they came when I didn't know, recently a woman told me she had the most amount of multiple orgasms ever and I didn't even know.
So, have confidence in your own abilitys, you sound like you truly know what your doing.
If your not getting feedback physically or verbally then gently enquire both how she is enjoying herself and encourage her to tell you exactly and graphically what turns her on and any exact requirements and techniques that she may enjoy and you won't go far wrong.
Happy carpet munching!
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