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How to put the spark back into a relationship that is long distance?

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Question - (24 October 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 24 October 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I need some direction back to the less travelled path of loyalty, honesty, and love. I'm lesbian... have been with my lesbian girlfriend for three years. I'm a very emotionally needy person. I need to be contacted every day: emailed, phoned, texted, or visited. Being in a long distance relationship makes daily visits impossible, esp considering I work a min 60 hours per week. Early on my girl coddled me.... called daily, texted nonstop, and emailed occasionally. When that drastically decreased I told her I need those things daily. She would do well for a week then slack off the next back to her same distant behavior. Space doesn't bother her but it killed me.

I eventually got tired of begging and pleading and crying to her. Esp since I'm very attractive n others wanted my time. I've never had sex with another woman while with her. But I have flirted with about 10 and allowed about 2 of them to touch my breast, I touch one of the 10 breast, saw another naked, went out with two. I never wanted to have sex with any of the women, so I didn't. I just wanted some attention, wanted to be wanted. Now I've told my girlfriend about all this and it hurts her but she still want to be with me and I with her. My problem is if she ignores or neglect me I may fall back to my ways which I don't want.

I have decided to move to her city to be near her. I don't want to be a heartbreaker but I don't want to be sitting by the phone all day awaiting a call or text while she is doing her own thing. She really don't trust the friends I had she believed everyone wanted to lay me.

What can I do to make this work better? I'm already moving closer, I already express my emotions. Can this go back to the spark when our relationship was a few months old?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012):

I think you know the answer in your heart . Your girlfriend is simply not providing you with a fulfilling relationship and making you feel loved . This is why you are turning to other women ....to find what is missing .

You need a long talk with your girlfriend ..saying how you feel . You need your freedom I think to regain your confidence , self esteem and find a girl who will make you feel loved and more content . you deserve it !

good luck ..

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