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writes:I've just recently split with someone that I was with since April. We ended on good terms but he said that he doesn't want to be with me because his head's all over at the minute. I've told him that I want to be here to support him and we'll get through it together but he doesn't seem to want that. I love him and I don't want this to be the end but I don't know what to do for the best. Do I walk away and let everything go even though I still love him and can't stop thinking about him or do I fight for him?I just don't know what to do for the best. I need some advice.Thank you Kind regards Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 December 2016):
 You might not want to but you need to accept that it is over. Nobody wants someone not letting them go and clinging on. I do understand how hard this is at your age, but it gets easier as you get older. He does not want to be with you any more. Therefore you need to accept that and let go. Try and avoid him and move on.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986  +, writes (13 December 2016):
I agree with N91 sweetie, you just need to walk away if he doesn't want your help at all. And if he is being a asshOle towards you. Tell him you two will be friends later on after things cools down with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2016): You don't have any choice. He has asked you to go. It doesn't matter if you still love him or not. You can't have a one-sided relationship. Imagine if you were going out with a boy and you decided you didn't fancy him anymore or it just wasn't what you wanted. You told him so, but he won't leave you alone. How would you feel? You're vey best course of action is to wish him well and go. The only chance of him changing his mind is if you give him the chance to miss you and see how great you are. He won't do that if you're mithering him trying to get him to change his mind. By the way when he said that his mind is all over at the minute, that was very likely an excuse. If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn't care about that, he would want you around. As he doesn't, you've got your answer. Sorry, these lessons are heard to learn, but give it a few weeks, get yourself out and about and you'll be wondering why you were so upset. I know you won't believe me, but you will, honestly. We've all been through it and come out the other side and you will too. You'll do it better and faster if you decide to respect his wishes and keep your dignity intact. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2016): walk away from him and dont look back.
he's dropping you, probably met someone else and he isnt being clear about this.
Stop loving him because he has stopped loving you.
You will soon meet someone who shows a higher level of comittment!
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reader, Kelly_lou +, writes (12 December 2016):
Leave him be. He has already said that he doesn't want to be with you and the more you push him, the more he will refuse. It may be hard at the moment but the best thing to do is leave it on the good terms you have mentioned. You need to respect yourself enough to move on with your life and find someone who truly wants you and who wants the same things you do.
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reader, N91 +, writes (12 December 2016):
 You have to walk away. He's told you he doesn't want your help.
Respect his wishes and move on to find someone who wants the same things that you do.
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