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How to have no contact with a crazy ex when they can't control themselves?

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Question - (4 June 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 5 June 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, *ittlegeebee writes:

My boyfriend of 3+ years and i have a 2 year old son together. My bf is a manipulative drug addict, he recently "broke up" with me through a text message fight, the 3rd one in 3 weeks, he said to me he needs a level head and is happy (he doesnt seem to realize i know he has been seeing this floozy ugly idiot homewrecker that has been a problem before, he is using her for drug money and rides and she is dumb enough to do it, she refused to believe he and i were still together for the past 6 months)...anyway...

Throughout our relationship my bf has disappeared for weeks at a time, the most recent one was the past 3 weeks, yesterday he finally text me and was arguing with me then tried to say he wants to be civil. Then the next day it turned into him harassing me, verbally abusive, threatened to bring me down and take my child away from me, threatened with child protective services and kidnapping charge if i went over the state boarder.He is thrashing out at me bc he cant admit to himself how bad of a person he is, He has been violent towards me before and held my son hostage when he was a newborn, he uses drugs daily and has multiple personalities. He walked out on us several times and while i was giving birth, he was withdrawing. He is very manipulative!! I am very fearful for our safety, what i can do until my case moves forward, if i can get temporary custody (and how) or if i can get immediate custody to protect my son from his abusive father. Can anyone give me some advice? im frustrated bc if you want someone out of your life you move on, instead he is doing the opposite, why bother talking to me, good bad or threatening if all you end up doing is texting me back later just to rub it all in my face again?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 June 2012):

aunt honesty agony auntI would love to know what you where thinking staying with him for so long. He should not be around your son at all if he is a drug addict, am sure that is not the upbringing you want for your son. If he is as bad as you say he is then he should never had any contact with your son what so ever. If you are fearful for you and your sons well being, then go straight to the police and tell them. You will need to bring along the threatening messages he has sent, and also explain that he is a drug addict. However be prepared to answer some hard questions as to why you have allowed your son to be around a drug addict until now, people can twist things and say you are trying to take his son away from him now because he has met some other girl, so you need to be prepared for everything. I am sure a drug test can confirm he is an addict and ask the police what you can do in the time being to ensure that you and your son are safe.

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