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How to get my boyfriend in the mood..?

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Question - (13 February 2005) 37 Answers - (Newest, 29 September 2009)
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I can't seem to get my boyfriend horny. I think I'm doing it wrong and I just wanted some tips on how to get him horny.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009):

to get my boyfriend in the mood i always show my boobs and bum off in everything i wear, he likes the thought of other men wanting me and that they cant have me. It makes him protective as well, which makes him feel mre powerful, which is wonderful for their ego

try and suggest doing things in public?

make up little games and things

maybe please yourself infront of him but tie him up?

making him want you more

or one thing that really gets my bf going

go into a resturant

and wear a skirt and no pants

under the table, undo his trousers and start to please, let him know, you have no pants on, but everytime he reaches to please you, stop what you are doing to him, and tell him you are for later

it makes em go crazy!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009):

To turn on my boyfriend i normally get on top of him and take of my bra and let him rub and kiss my boobs then i start kissing his neck and whispering things like "bby i want you" or "awow baby fuck me" in a cute innocent voice, hearing it turns him on instantly and when ur having sex tlk dirty!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009):

for starters ; always wear something that shows a little bit of skin . what you could try is play a game in the kitchen , whoever wins gets a kiss , let him keep winning - on the last round dont stop kissing him & get ontop of him ; grab his hand and let him feel on your butt . while he's feeling on your butt takee off his shirt & start grinding on him . Lay him down on the kitcheen table and strip down for him ;) . let him smack your ass once him a while . take off your clothes and start touching yourself and start talking dirty , then take off his pants and play with a dick a little bit ;& let him feel on your clit . and if this dont get your man hard then he must be gaay

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A female reader, pinkjane_86 United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2009):

pinkjane_86 agony aunti have had this problem with my ex boyfriend and my fiance i am with now. I think you should talk too him and see if there is anything on his mind. when i talked too my fiance about this he told me he was stressed over certain things thats wasnt really a bad problem in my eyes but it really bothered him. Sometimes men can become less sexually active due too stress and problems. After we spoke he felt better but still had a few (not getting it up problems) which where making me feel uncomftable :( so i went out and bought sexy clothes which made me feel better plus turned him on.U could even ask him what his fantasies are they might be a bit mad lol my fiances where but id try anythin once :) hope this helps :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009):

you should get tight with him. do things to get him really turned on , like rub him, get playful make it tempting for him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009):

start dry humping him. go onto him and put your finger in your mouth and kiss down his stomach, ever so slowly. Move around while sitting on his lap. trickle your fingers down his stomach and trace circles around his penis. Move and massage his thighs, and un-zip his pants. Slide your hand under his pants, but over his breifs/boxers. Massage around his penis. whisper in his ear "do you like this?" and start grinding on his penis. (take your hand out first) then remove his and your pants and whisper "how bout this?" and dry hump him that way. Then remove only his boxers, and gently take his penis and rub it against your vag. Then just tease him and rub in circles against his penis. Then stop and giggle. Then take his hand and put it on your breast and lead him around a little bit. If hes not norny by then then hes not worth trying it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009):

I offered my boyfriend a massage which he loves. I gave him a hot massage last night with him laying on his back i started massaging and caressing his thighs working in the oils I worked it paying attention to his thighs worked my way up to his groin area still massaging and was leaving him guessing as i rubbed just by his balls it was making me want him but I wanted to make him wait as much as I wanted him as I was well in the mood that I wanted to suck him and lick him I got wet just thinking about everything I wanted to do to him it drove me crazy I got myself hot and took my top off with him stripped down I wanted to let my body slightly make contact with his with me on top reach up to him kiss him deeply while kissing down his body grabbing him gently making him want me more with every touch. I lick him on his dick deep throat him and omg that is one way to get him worked up wanting more. I am 25 and know how to get my boyfriend in the mood. I also love to watch some porn with him lesbian action turns me on loads.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009):

to get a guy horny you should put him in the bed with you anywhere and get a little tongue action going and while youre kissing him take his hands and make him touch you places and while hes touching you places get on top of him and start feeling his penis let him finger you a little and do oral on him trust me if that dont get him turned on nothing will wear something slutty and by doing this you guys will both get horny and you know what happens next =]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009):

I have the same problem every once in a while. Its hard to get my boyfriend "in the mood". Normally Ill sit on his lap and make my self know by him. We'll kiss and make out for a while and then ill start kissing his neck and whisper 'diryy' things ino his ear. he loves it! and it really turns him on, specially when im sitting over 'him'.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009):

what i do to get my boyfriend in the mood is, well he is usually always getting me in the bed or a different room then were our friends are ... so tell him through a text or whisper in his ear you need to talk to him in a different room, maybe he'll get the message or hint. but when you get away with him start to kiss him and ask him if he wants more. if the other room has a bed or a tv, lay down with him and start to touch his penis. and show alittle skin [: that should start up sex. and deffff get him horny ;)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009):

What I would do to turn him on and all horny is this. Lay him down on the bed. Then take off his clothes but keep your own on. Then once he is comfortable stand in front of him and slowly strip down to your bra and underwear. Now if this doesn't turn him on, then let him lick your stomach and you lick his back. This put your lips down to his cock and lick it and lick his balls to get him all ready.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009):

I have been with boyfriend 5 years and really wanna surprise him. I have done so much with him and he loves my horny streak but i need new ideas.

in relation 2 your question; i only ever have to climb on top of my bf and either rub my pussy against him or take my top off and grab his hand 2 my nipples and he is hard. if this fails to work peel back his trousers and start to fondle his cock or play and lick and suck his balls.

you can send him really dirty msgs when he away during day 2 see his reaction, my bf always makes me laugh and extremly horny with his replies. tell him you r really horny and wet thinking of his hard cock. you want to take him as deep and hard as you can while he sucks our nipples and you play with your clit. tell him if he dont hurry home you will have to finger yourself as you cant help being so horny. you wanna feel his body under ur hands. of course you make this more personal.

my bf loves thought of me with 2 men, maybe you could play this with him. I know how 2 work my bf, mite not work with every man.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008):

what i do to get my boyfriend horny is turn off all the lights and sit him on the bed, and put on something skanky, that will really turn him on. then i just start dry humping him and grind on him, then kiss him and lick his neck&ear and then start moaning, it will really get him hard :]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008):

okay so when i want to turn on my boyfriend all i have todo is sit on his of course sit on top of his thing and start looking into his eyes and gently kiss his neck but very gently to intensify the moment...once he kisses you back dry hump his very slowly and that just definintly turns him on nd u noe whats next...=]]]]]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

i usually just sit on him so i am positioned on his dick and i move around in a horny way.

When he says something dirty and your horny moan a little and he will be completely horny after he hears you make noises.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008):

just cuddle up with him in bed and start to slow kiss~ then whisper in his ear "i want it" and he'll get the hint :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008):

To get my boyfriend in the mood, I sneak into his room when we r all alone and while he is lying on his bed, i take off my shirt and pants so im only wearing a bra and underwear. THen climb under the covers and cuddle and kiss.

Press ur body up against his, especially press ur vagins area near his penis. He' ll love it!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

to get my boy friend in the mood i first start by french kissing then licking his neck, then next i grab his hand and put only one hand on my ass and make eye contact with him and bite my lip then..

he gets the clue

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008):

well ask him if u can try and get him in the mood and if u cant well then hes not rready but u can try wearing barley nothing and make out with him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007):

french kiss him slowly wile ur playing with his hair...kiss his neck, then slowly move down to his chest.. keep kissing and liking him al arund, he would love it!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007):

what me and my boyfriend does is when he comes over we have all our clothes on then i start giving him soft kisses and gradually make it intense and if he's still in the mood then go under his pants and start rubbing his penis or tease it then that will get him really turned on if this doesnt work then wear a skanky outfit and slowly (while standing up) strip in front of him and he'll obvisouly get turned on :]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007):

When i was with my boyfriend in his car a couple weeks ago i kept asking him about sex. Telling him i wanted him to be my first. Then i showed him my stomach.. And when he seen my stomach he just had to touch it. Then when he new i wanted it as much as him he ended up fingering me. Of course here comes the boner. But of course if was fun. I loved every minute of it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007):

grab him one day and pin him up against a wall. lick his neck and press ur body against him. he'll get way turned on

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

Well, what I do to my boyfriend is rub my face and butt against his thing. If that doesn't work, I press my boobs in his face!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

when hes laying on his back..sit on his stomach and lean back against his penis.. bend down and seductivly lick his neck it will def. turn him on

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007):

well what gets my boyfriend turned on is when we kiss standing up, i put my pubic area on his dick, and like dry hump... he loves it!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007):

well what i do to my boyfriend to get him horny is i touch his penis..(obviously his boxers are on) and when youre doing that look at him in the eyes and bite your lips.that will totaly work.another thing you can do is lick his neck.i promise you he'll get really turned on by that. :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007):

just cuddle, rub his thigh, nibble on the top of his ear nd keep getting closer nd that woill sure get him turned on

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007):

ok i have the same problem we talk and make out but never really do it. just spend a little time away and then he will go crazy for some goodies o yea plus wear some victoria secret bras that show a little bit toooo much

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2007):

ok, so the way i really get my boyfriend in the mood is we kinda dont' like make out agressively for a long time

he'll ask for akiss and i'll deny him his rights to the kiss

then like have him over sometime and get him in your bed just watching a movie or something and start kissing him

hold his hands and then take his hands and put them on your body. this tells him you do want him to be touching you adn that hes not being disrespectful. straddle him, kiss his neck, maybe once while straddlin ghim sitt up and like pull back you hair and arch your body a lot and stretch it out. he'll haev nothing else to look at but your elongated body. which he will find extremely hot

and he mgith masturbate a lot.. that doesn't help

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007):

Try rubbing against his thing.and putting your boobs in his face.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006):

nibble on his ear look stright in his eyes and when he sees u than put a cheeky smile on and move your eyes to the side and hug him and put ur body so u can feel is dick he wll love it

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A reader, keisha, writes (2 March 2005):

You can kiss him all over and nibble on his ear and when you do that, you can also blow on his ear and whisper stuff in there. Just let him know you want him!!!

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A reader, Kelli, writes (1 March 2005):

To get a guy in the mood can be tricky. Usually when your alone it is more likley he'll get turned on easier, or when your out in public whisper a dirty thought or dream in his ear(even if its not true) and later act it out. Take him in a sexy store and ask him to pick out an outfit for you...later, try it on for him. If watching a movie ot just sitting around talking start to kiss him lightly, playing "hard to get" a little, the become more intense as time progresses. Make sure you dont smile, letting him know your serious about what you have to offer. Stroke yourself against him or bite your lip (he'll go crazy)!!!!!Feel on him a little and play with his tongue using yours. Words dont usually turn a guy on as much as touching or feeling does....REMEMBER....ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2005):

He may be a bit shy. He may not realise that you actually want to be close.

Maybe ask him if he remembers a previous 'horny' event. 'Do you remember how you hand slid over my...' whatever, it is just an excuse to talk a bit 'dirty', do this in the right setting, in the right tone, being right there beside him and he won't be able to keep his hands off you.

Get the idea into his head. Be suggestive and play 'hard(ish) to get' and he will strain a muscle!

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A reader, Teema, writes (14 February 2005):

I can only say be yourself, don't try so hard

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2005):

PLan a special romantic candel-lit surprise meal for just the two of you, have roses, his favourite food, romantic peaceful music and wear a skimpy sexy short dress, make sure your all beautified and gorg and i am sure that will be an offer he cant turn down!

after dinner talk and give him kisses and gradually take it to whatever level you want and if he dosent want to go any further simply accept it and talk to him about it, ask him why he is being like that but i am sure he will be happy with the idea after you have gone to lots of trouble with the dinner!

Try it and you will be surprised!

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