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How to gain back a man's trust???

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Question - (21 March 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 24 June 2010)
A female Singapore age 22-25, anonymous writes:

How to gain back a man trust? He is virgo and I'm pisces. He likes to test me and I always fail those mind games. I always mess things up no matter how careful I am. Anyone have similar experiences and can teach me what to do?

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A female reader, Hym4ME United States +, writes (24 June 2010):

Hello,

I am a virgo and my man friend is a virgo. Its not that hes playing games... what you think are mind games is really to see how quick you are on your feet and if you can push back on him alot... see his bday is in august which gives him a little bit of the leo side as well... so what i suggest you do is.. when he says something to test you... listen to it carefully and then respond. But your response has to make sense and make sure you just answer it honestly and confidently like... If he does something off track ill say something like thats crazy as a figure of speech but he will say whats crazy ... and i would be like nothing ...lol.. and like shake my head or laugh it off but it would piss him off because virgo men want to know exactly what it is..they dont like mysteries they want you to be real... so now i respond like... its really crazy that you sat there and complained the whole time and i just got off work and cooked you dinner... YOU GOTTA be REAL.. lol. and they like to be tested to so.. if they do something and you feel some type of way about it..its the perfect time to address it.. like for example... i usually do all his laundry right... well for the past couple of months he hasnt brought anything to me to wash so i felt it was strange.. so I asked him straight out... Whos been doing your laundry.. I know it wasnt him.. and it was challenge because it put him on the spot.. virgo men love intelligent conversations and they dont like to feel like they are wasting their time. So make it worth while... challenge him and experiment with him... u have nothing to lose..OH and trust me they always want to make u feel like you are the hot mess but girl, they are really the ones that are a mess... and as long as you look at him like the way he looks at you hes gona start realizing that being an asshole is not the way to go... cuz your using reverse pyschology with just a look LOL... make him feel a little uncomfortable and he will start to leave you alone... you just got push back a little. ;) good luck.. aloha

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A female reader, Hym4ME United States +, writes (24 June 2010):

Hello,

I am a virgo and my man friend is a virgo. Its not that hes playing games... what you think are mind games is really to see how quick you are on your feet and if you can push back on him alot... see his bday is in august which gives him a little bit of the leo side as well... so what i suggest you do is.. when he says something to test you... listen to it carefully and then respond. But your response has to make sense and make sure you just answer it honestly and confidently like... If he does something off track ill say something like thats crazy as a figure of speech but he will say whats crazy ... and i would be like nothing ...lol.. and like shake my head or laugh it off but it would piss him off because virgo men want to know exactly what it is..they dont like mysteries they want you to be real... so now i respond like... its really crazy that you sat there and complained the whole time and i just got off work and cooked you dinner... YOU GOTTA be REAL.. lol. and they like to be tested to so.. if they do something and you feel some type of way about it..its the perfect time to address it.. like for example... i usually do all his laundry right... well for the past couple of months he hasnt brought anything to me to wash so i felt it was strange.. so I asked him straight out... Whos been doing your laundry.. I know it wasnt him.. and it was challenge because it put him on the spot.. virgo men love intelligent conversations and they dont like to feel like they are wasting their time. So make it worth while... challenge him and experiment with him... u have nothing to lose..OH and trust me they always want to make u feel like you are the hot mess but girl, they are really the ones that are a mess... and as long as you look at him like the way he looks at you hes gona start realizing that being an asshole is not the way to go... cuz your using reverse pyschology with just a look LOL... make him feel a little uncomfortable and he will start to leave you alone... you just got push back a little. ;) good luck.. aloha

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010):

hi all, im the one who post this qns.

thanks for replying,peeps (: i really appreciate it.

yes i did something wrong at first, i lie to him.

The following passage is what i saw at a site which i felt so true about him:

'The Virgo suffers personally, professionally and physically when his partner has been unfaithful. After an initial period of self-pity he will fight back, determined that she experiences some pain too. In the long term sense will prevail.'

He made sure that i suffer. People say his 'one eye for an eye' way is stupid and ask me to leave him. but no i love him alot and i would do anything to gain back his trust and make things go back to how we are happily in the past.

I apologised but along the way i messed up some things.

mind games i mean as in he like to test my reaction, and often i do not know it, and i mess up.

as to how i know is a test he in the end told me.

he is being like dun wan be close to me now its like i feel he close his heart to me. he feel i will hurt him.

yes i trust him hmm but why by trusting him can i gain back his trust?

p.s. sorry i dun wan to include too specific info. but i can answer further question. I really need your help!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010):

How do you mean, what kind of mind games? and how do you mess things up?

I'm like that with star sings, I really believe in them. My boyfriend is aries where as I'm Scorpio which is the complete oposite of signs which we are very oposite. We disagree on alot of things too.

I think to gain back a mans trust which I've had to go through myself, is down to him. He needs to prove to you how much you can trust him. You need to feel secure with him at all times.

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A female reader, Neanthia United States +, writes (21 March 2010):

Neanthia agony auntI think we need a little more information here, Virgo vs. Pisces, from what I know those are a pretty good match. What exactly did you do to lose his trust in the first place? I want to help you but I can only do that if you explain.

What kind of mind games? Puzzles? Tarot? I Ching? Biorhythms? I don't know, tell me what you mean then I might be able to help you. Also remember that mind games ARE games. That means they are for fun, so if you mess them up he should understand, they are meant to be fun. I need some info, I can only help you if you'll let me, and if I can't somebody who might be able to will also need more info.

oh and FYI for the trust thing: "People fall in love by chance, people fall out of love by choice"-unknown

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A female reader, Entirely Unique United Kingdom +, writes (21 March 2010):

Entirely Unique agony auntHe shouldn't be playing games least of all mind ones and you shouldn't be worrying about passing them.

Just be yourself, you are who he fell for so trying to change things to pass his little mind games isn't really going to be you being you.

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