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How to distance myself from my arrogant, know-it-all brother?

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Question - (2 April 2016) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 April 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm getting to really hate my brother.

I am the only one of my siblings that my brother stays in touch with on a regular basis - basically because the others are married and he doesn't really feel comfortable around the inlaws.

The trouble is - he has no endearing features and is not like anyone else. He is his own worst enemy - he is arrogant, a know it all, constantly talks about himself and is always foolish around women - not seeing when they use him, time after time. Plus if you try to say this to him he just sneers at you.

Anyway, it's getting to the stage where I have absolutely no interest in what he has to say or do anymore and I can't stand him ringing me up all the time talking about himself.

I sound mean - but I really don't know how to escape him, with him being in the family and being able to contact me all the time etc.

I really want to distance myself from him - but I know he doesn't have many close friends, because of his manner.

What can I do?

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (3 April 2016):

Danielepew agony auntWell, next time tell him to cut the crap or else.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 April 2016):

Honeypie agony auntYou know, I have met quite a few of his type. The "almighty knowitalls" and if I have learned anything, it's that you CANNOT change other people.

So when in their company I just smile and nod. There is no point in debating anything with them.

If your time together with him feels draining and isn't positive at all... then that it up to you if you want to cut him out or not.

Personally, a "knowitall" I can deal with, as long as it's not TOO often. And if that person happened to be my brother.. I'd suck it up. But I might cut it down to the bare minimum of socializing.

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