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How to deal with online dating rejection?

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Question - (12 April 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 May 2011)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I've started to try online dating. It's so frustrating for a guy. I'm not the best looking out there. I send my responses. No response. One girl messaged me. I asked to hang out with her. She says she's busy. We still talk to each other. But ugg. I've been rejected many times in real life. I really don't know what to do. Just approach more women and just ask them out. I know it'll work. It seems so desperate.....I don't know what else to do.

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A female reader, VioletSparkle Netherlands +, writes (5 May 2011):

not true, there are always more women than men in most dating sites, maybe it's not the right dating site? Improve your profile? get a picture taken by a semi-professional? Anyway, remember that those people don't actually know you, so it really isn't personal. Maybe you remind them of the cousin that pulled their ponytails when they were small, or you wrote to them after they were fired, or they were having 5 dates a week and had their hands full. You don't know, but, considering that they don't know you, it's can't be you.. (unless you write offensive or hurtful things in your messages, or you come across as desperate, but you seem a polite guy :)

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A female reader, Anonymous711  +, writes (12 April 2011):

I agree with the other comment, scrap dating sites. I think you should go out to night clubs, or places were you will meet the perfect women of your dreams. Good luck + dont be afraid :D

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A male reader, Illithid United States +, writes (12 April 2011):

Illithid agony auntI hate to rain misery on you, but dating sites have a very low rate of success. Men generally outnumber women by a significant margin and women are free to be extremely picky about who they talk to. The free sites are better than the pay sites, but it's not a very good place to meet people (though naturally some people have found success). It's better to join a club, or spend time mingling at church, or just find places to meet women in person where they can judge you on more than a photo, a formulaic profile, and an email.

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A male reader, mr69 United Kingdom +, writes (12 April 2011):

mr69 agony auntI'd say just put it behind you because it's cyberspace and it could be anyone.

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