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writes:Chatting with a great guy via text and we've yet to meet. Our meeting being next month. Last night he had to go to sleep quite early and while saying good night, referred to me as 'babe'. "Night night babe sleep well."I feel the babe thing is way to early and feels forced and just not right yet. Yes, we've been talking for about a month but we havn't even met! I don't want to assume he's a bad guy who says this to every woman, nor a good guy who....says this to many women.So I want to COMMUNICATE this to him. In a polite way. How do I go about broaching the subject?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): Hi there
I think you're over reacting, being called babe is a common thing and lots of people get called it. Throw a curve ball back in his direction by saying ok mate or similar next time he calls you it, if he doesn't like that explain you don't like being called babe. Personally I think if you like the guy and when you do meet and you progress to more dates and a relationship you'll give each other more personal pet names and babe or for that matter mate will just disappear into a distant memory.
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reader, ConfusedButInLove +, writes (23 December 2014):
Hi, I will try to give the best possible advice I can give, sorry if it isn't good! Anyway, I would let it go just this once, but if he does it again, just say something like, "hey could you maybe not call me that? I don't feel comfy! :)" Make sure to send a happy face, so he knows that you're being polite. Hope this helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): tell him that you don't even know why don't like this name.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 December 2014):
 He calls all girls babe. it's easier than remembering who he is talking to.
Just say "don't call me Babe I hate it" my husband did that too.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 December 2014):
Uhhhh... Babe is a pretty common thing to say to someone even if you don't have a relationship. It's not the same as "baby".
If you say something to him it should be gentle or he'll be turned off by your (possibly) uptight nature.
Just wait till he says it again and tell him you're not a fan of pet names outside of a relationship.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 December 2014):
 I know a guy who called EVERY girl he met (and was interested in) babe. Why? Because that way if he was juggling more then one girl, he wouldn't mess up names. After that, I never really liked "cutesy" nicknames lol. So I don't blame you for not "loving" being called babe.
I would just be honest, hey *John*, I'd prefer you used my name, not babe. For me, babe is an intimate nickname that people who know each other really well uses - and WE are just starting to get to know each other.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 December 2014):
 Hi, please dont call me babe, I dont know you well enough yet for such nick names.
Ps. Yes, this is something he calls every woman, and not just you. To him it doesnt mean anyhing, so maybe its a sign hes not the right guy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): I really enjoy talking to you but it does make me uncomfortable when you call me babe before we've even met. Thanks for understanding that I want to take it slow.
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